Seductive Girl: Alcohol and Femininity

Do you want to be feminine and lovely, in personality, looks and behavior? In other words do you want to be an IDEAL woman, dove? Do I hear a "YES?" Good!

Not every woman is ideal, however, I believe that the essence to be such a woman, and to possess the qualities of an ideal woman is in every woman.

A woman's desire to be such a woman isn't really about personal vanity. It's an aspect of her SELF-RESPECT. A demand, from the deepest parts of her nature that she be known to the world in her best light. And an instinct to put her 'best foot forward' in the contest of living.

Ideal, feminine and lovely women grace any gathering. They can ignore conventions and cut a path of their own to social distinction. Lovely debutantes are more easily launched. More orchids and parties and conquests come their way.

Just about every young girl dreams of herself as becoming lovely, alluring, fateful. She may see in a much-loved singer or actress the embodiment of her OWN dreams of being the heroine of the drama. Moreover, audiences have greater sympathy for roles enacted by ideal, feminine and lovely women.

In addition, an 'ideal' woman finds her way easier from the beginning. Every rung of her ladder to success is won with less labor, not only because she's good to look at, but she's IDEAL in her personality and behavior.

If she's in the public eye, she has continuous engagements. If she's a model, she often gets the job. If she's an actress, the season's most coveted parts are frequently offered her....

Even in BUSINESS a woman should be ideal, feminine and lovely. The fact remains, that even in the world of business, a woman's beauty and femininity is an asset.

Managers find such women to be a good investment - not only because they do the job well, and are professional, but because they're classy, polished and lovely! And they'll seek their cooperation to assure their own success.

In the world of business, 'dowdy' and less than ideal girls are somewhat depressing, and they express failure, not success. And while a CEO of a company may declare that he'll never hire a pretty girl again, one suspects him of not telling the whole truth.

Furthermore, most business men admit having a preference for feminine and attractive women in the work place, and for purely business reasons (apparently, customers and clients feel similarly, as well.)

What greater tribute can a mother have than her children thinking that she's womanly and lovely? Inside and out. And surely children will feel closer to a 'young and lovely' mother, than to a 'faded and weary' mother?

The generations seem to grow closer if mothers keep themselves youthful. With the advances in self-beautification/improvement, this is a much easier feat than it used to be.

In addition, youth is a state of mind, An exciting challenge, even! You can wake up one morning, and know that you're thirty, or even that you're forty plus. But you won't feel it unless you DRAMATIZE it.

I heard a story about a woman glancing at her calendar one day and suddenly realizing the "awful truth," it was her birthday, and she was FORTY! She dissolved in tears and felt that she couldn't face it.

When her husband came in, to dress for a celebratory birthday lunch, she told him; "I'm not going, I just can't!" To his surprised; "What's the matter with you?" she tearfully replied; "Today I'm forty!"

"Huh," her rather unsympathetic husband responded. "You've been forty for the last five years, according to your family Bible!"

So, you see, dove, forty is a state of MIND. Even so, today is the time to take stock of your health, your beauty, and your femininity - as well as your mental agility, your interest in life, love and the pursuit of happiness!

What else can you do to retain your youth and loveliness?

Look after your health (don't wait for an emergency to occur before you take action.) Take care of your TEMPLE.

Exercise. LOSE any excess weight (curves are ideal, but excess layers and rolls of fat aren't ideal, and aren't what curves are about.)

Avoid sedatives and the excess drinking of alcohol. Trendy bars and cocktail rooms are just about everywhere, and crowded with over-dressed, and often, over-fed females - of all ages.

Many women in their twenties drop in at their local bar, or get the "girls" together for wine and cocktails - with more drinking than socializing. They think they need the 'lift' of a drink to enjoy a night out. However, this 'lift' is only temporary, and when it wears off, they 'need' another drink.

The effect of alcohol on a woman thirty and above is dismaying. She not only gets 'blowzy,' noisy and unladylike. She puts on weight, loses her looks, and her self-respect.

High value men don't abide such females.

This also isn't a preachment against the drinking of alcohol, dove; you needn't be a teetotaler, wear a white ribbon or sign a pledge. But don't turn to alcohol to get you over the rough spots, or see it as the only way to have a good time.

How unimaginative. Furthermore, if you're seeking REAL love, romance and affection, you won't find any of them in a bar. They just don't serve any of those ingredients there!

Sedatives, over time, make you nervous, so you'll take another pill to quiet you. There's a real danger in popping sedative pills too, as they give you no real rest, or surcease from your depression.

You always have to wake up and face your problems, as well - unless, in a stupor you take too many, and needless tragedy! Out goes another woman who took an overdose of pills!

Get your colors done. You're either a 'Spring,' a 'Summer,' an 'Autumn' or a 'Winter.' Your skin tone is the most important factor in determining your colors.

Get a wardrobe analysis done by an professional image consultant (or learn how to do it yourself,) and update your wardrobe to include more feminine and becoming outfits.

When you're going on a date, or spending some quality 'alone' time with your man, put on your BEST garment.

Wear makeup every day. Even if it's minimal. Older women who wear makeup (foundation, concealer and/or powder,) look years younger than the women who don't. This is because wearing makeup on your face protects your skin from the elements.

Do weekly manicures, pedicures and hair conditioning treatments.

Grow your hair long, or at least to a length that makes you the most womanly and becoming.

If you're an older woman, embrace your grey hair. 'Silverette Sirens' are exclusive, and the silver tones in a woman's hair can be particularly lovely! Often there's no loss of beauty in the hair, even after it's turned gray, if the hair's itself is magnificently healthy and luxurious.

When nature turns your hair to silver, you become one of that exclusive group; the 'Silverettes.' And don't ever say of yourself; "I'm a gray-haired woman." Say proudly; "I'm a Silverette!"

See the difference, cupcake?

Get a little 'nip and tuck' done if you think that will help you to look and feel better.

Take care of your teeth. Use whitening strips to whiten your teeth if they're stained. If your teeth are really bad, consider getting porcelain veneers.

Get enough Vitamin D. Aim for at least ten minutes of sunlight on the back of your hands each day.

If you're self-conscious, or a 'Tomboy' or introverted, don't allow yourself to say; "That's ME. That's my disposition. I can't help it." You CAN help it. To say that you can't is to admit that your own mental processes are beyond your control.

To accept the domination of any negative thought or emotion is to condemn yourself to always being a nobody.

I think that there's not a woman alive who doesn't want to be an ideal, feminine and lovely woman - if she tells the TRUTH about it, that is! However, some women won't admit this, even to themselves.

Moreover, many women merely pretend to scoff at the idea of being pretty and feminine, and will tell you it's unnecessary and "shallow." But life has often been disappointing to these women, and they're putting on a front.

Furthermore, dove, many significantly overweight and/or masculine types of women will cast aside the desire to be 'ideal,' as if beauty and slimness never mattered to them. But they KNOW (even though they may adamantly deny it,) that all they have would be worth twice as much if they had ideal beauty and femininity.

When they look in the mirror, with no one around to see them unmasked, they wish they were beautiful too. They do, they do, they do. And don't believe a woman who tells you otherwise!

Once they get married, some women start to "let themselves go," and make no effort to create an atmosphere of gracious femininity and charm. If only they would make an effort to spruce themselves up a bit, and don a nice outfit when hubby is due home (looking as attractive as possible.) The husband would be pleased.

He may ask; "What's all this?" But he'll like it.

Remember, lovely, when your husband married you he evidently found you attractive. If you've been letting him down the last few months or years, NOW is the the time to make amends.

Things happen to attractive women. Things come to attractive women. And romance lives with the feminine and lovely and ideal.

Furthermore, high value men seek ideal female beauty. They also see in femininity an inspiration and the ideal. If you have, or cultivate such beauty, you'll have homage (the tribute may take different forms, but it's still tribute.)

Just as women hide in their innermost hearts their reasons for wanting beauty, so do men have reasons (as deeply rooted and buried,) for seeking beauty. A man's devotion to beauty is an expression of his idealism.

His admiration of beauty, as well as to femininity, is his tribute to this thing which he may not be able to define, but which stirs him in unknown depths. And men who know nothing of art or aesthetics still find some bewildering satisfaction in looking at a feminine and lovely woman (an ideal woman.)

In all the history of nations, no matter how material or 'modern' the age, or how ugly the cruelty of its customs, men have turned (for inspiration of the soul) to BEAUTY.

If you're pretty and feminine and 'ideal,' men will seek you, surround you and serve you. Love will come to you - as well as a nice home, beautiful children.... Moreover, ideal women live more fully, intensely, superbly.

There, I've dared to say it! Furthermore, these are the reasons that YOU want to be beautiful, dove. Why bother to evade and conceal this truth? It's the truth, and it's always been so.

The Queen of Sheba, Scheherazade, Helen of Troy, Cleopatra, Madame Recamier, Madame de Pompadour.... these women epitomized life in their respective eras. People and events gathered around them. They're also in history because their very beauty made history.

Things happened to them too, that can't be forgotten, because they were extraordinary women of excellence - and LOVELY.

The ideal woman of today casts a similar golden glow over her surroundings. Her radiant beauty may make hers a charmed life as well, and enable her to rise from less-than-ideal surroundings.

While beauty means so much to men, and the world, it's a woman's greatest privilege and duty to be beautiful The Art of Beautification for Seductresses. A beautiful woman is a delight to every one who knows her. She dispenses something that people NEED.

And it's a part of every woman's mission to supply that need!

The keynote of modern beauty is naturalness. By this, I'm not referring to a face that's bare of makeup, or to hair that's never been colored. I'm referring to the most exquisite grooming and a rigid standard of cleanliness.

Moreover, all our efforts to be beautiful are based on an understanding of the processes of nature.

In seeking the beauty that's in you, who knows what lovely proportions your figure will take on when you lose those extra pounds? Or when it's developed as the Greeks developed their models for Aphrodite and Diana?

Who knows what velvety bloom your skin may have when it's perfectly healthy? Who knows what radiance your personality may possess when you release its powers?

Try by every means to accomplish it. However, the most potent means is already in your hands, and in the wonderful recuperative and REGENERATIVE powers of your own body.

All your muscles grow and change with the months, and you can TRANSFORM them into the mold of ideal female beauty.

Your skin cells die and are replaced every day. You can take advantage of that change to improve the texture and tint of your complexion.

Furthermore, your mind is a stream of impressions, thoughts and reactions, and you can divert that stream to record only beautiful and positive thoughts in the lines of your face - and in the rhythm of your vibrations.

You CAN be beautiful, dove. You can be an ideal, feminine and lovely woman. Nature meant that you should be!

You should be womanly, radiant, desirable. If you're not, it's only because through ignorance, or past hurts, that you're thwarting all the powers which should flow from the infinite through you.

You have only to go back to the source, and put all your physical, mental and spiritual forces in tune with nature. And while you're doing that, anoint yourself (put on some lovely perfume, while anointing yourself with the Holy Spirit.)

And you'll be beautiful again.

Anyhow cupcake, I do hop you enjoyed my post; 'How to Be An Ideal, Feminine and Lovely woman!'

Much love,
Melina xxx

Books and Courses for Seductive Women

Feminissima - School of Feminine Arts

Give Up Your day Job With My Work From Home, Money-Making Blueprints (Can Be Used Anywhere in the World)

Work From Home Moms & Girls

The Sedona Method

A secret of a modern seductress to achieve any goal she desires, and become a woman of excellence. The Sedona Method isn't a form of therapy or programming. Instead, it works to help you to dramatically change and improve yourself and your LIFE. I highly recommend this method!

The Sedona Method

Articles for Feminine and Seductive Women

Women of Excellence, Femininity and Charm
The World's Great Ladies, Advanced Femmes and Femi...
The Ideal Lover - The Art of Seduction

Emotional Intelligence For Women (And The Dangers ...

The Art of Being a Woman; Feminine Grace
The Art of Femininity and The Truth About Being Fe...
Seduction Archetypes and Seducer Types In The Art ...
Tips for Feminine Poise, Grace and Loveliness

How to Kiss Like a Seductress - And Get Fuller and...
How to Be a Seductress - The Art of Seduction for ...
Secrets of the Most Seductive Women
Ultimate List of the BEST Girly, Feminine and Roma...
Feminine, Seductive and Glamorous Actresses to Ins...
Feminine Dress; How to be More Girly, Womanly and ...
Channeling your Passions into Feminine Hobbies - P...Feminine Behavior and Why We Should Glory in It

How Seductive Women Use Their Femininity to Receiv...

The Seductive Mindset of a Seductress

Seductive Women; The Way they Walk

Some Rules of a Seductive Woman

Dating Advice - First Date Etiquette for Women

The Natural

Ultimate List of the BEST Girly, Feminine and Roma...

Feminine, Seductive and Glamorous Actresses to Ins...

Feminine Dress; How to be More Girly, Womanly and ...

Channeling your Passions into Feminine Hobbies - P...

My Other Femininity Blog

The Art of Being Feminine

Occasional or moderate drinking does have its place in life. Admittedly, I do enjoy an occasional drop of red; Merlot, Cabernet Sauvignon, Pinot Noir.... mmmm!

In addition, there's no primitive tribe in this world that hasn't been without its fermented potion of some sort. The Bible tells us; “Drink your wine with a merry heart.” And the Apostle Paul told Timothy that he should drink a little wine for his stomach's sake.

Alcohol can help with the jaded appetite and add to the gaiety and ease of social gatherings (by releasing us from shyness or tension.)

However dove, alcohol is something that a feminine woman needs to handle WELL, and should be drunk for occasional enjoyment (and to break the ice at a party if necessary.)

But NOT so that it breaks down every reservation - and promotes an orgy!

I'll also add; the host who insistently plies his guests with double shots until they're staggering, not only reveals his ignorance, but his total indifference concerning their welfare.

What happens to them once they leave his house will be of no concern to him. And if a car or a marriage cracks up in the alcoholic haze that follows, hey, that's their business!

Sometimes a woman, who's usually quite the lady, will be so sure of her usual self, that she'll think; "Just for fun, I'll have ONE more drink. I can handle it." She has no intention of getting drunk either - or to end up staggering around while slurring nonsensically!

Furthermore, she may take the extra drink just to prove to her companions of the moment that she's a good sport. But invariably, one extra drink will lead to another, and the effect of the alcohol (plus the persuasion of her companions,) not only leads her into making a complete FOOL of herself - but into a sordid escapade.

In spite of her having been so SURE of herself!

In addition, most men practiced in the seamier side of seduction, know from experience that if a woman is given enough alcohol, it's only a matter of TIME before she becomes amenable.

There's a point when a woman who's drinking will be taken beyond her capacity to think straight - and exert will power. Whether it's at the third drink or the sixth, the point of NO return is always there, as it is for a man.

Sometimes a woman is coaxed into heavy drinking by her boyfriend. Because the boyfriend is addicted to alcohol, he wants to share the guilt by involving his girlfriend in his drinking sprees.

Many women have confided in a friend something along the lines of; 'I never drank much until my boyfriend kept insisting. He'd call me a bad sport and a wet blanket unless I drank."

In addition cupcake, the incidence of unplanned pregnancies while under the influence of excess alcohol is GREAT. That's because both men and women lack caution when they've had too much to drink.

Tragically, women who are prone to drinking often admit to two or three abortions (saying that they had to terminate the pregnancies because they happened under the influence and the affect of alcohol.)

However, the feminine and intelligent woman will AVOID being drawn (under the influence of alcohol,) into these situations. She'll also avoid the so-called 'drinking crowd.'

You know the crowd I'm talking about doll, the one filled with singles and couples who whoop it up every Saturday night! In a combination of alcohol and amorousness.

Around midnight, there will be arms around waists, silly exchanges, and "Phil, you don't mind if I give your pretty wife a little kiss, do you?" And Phil may mind actually, but it's all in the spirit of 'harmless alcoholic fun!'

He probably won't want to spoil the party either, but may possibly seek out the other man's wife and sleep with her - in retaliation.

The whole situation of the heavy-drinking crowd is always an unhealthy one dove. The mixture of intoxicated singles and couples invariably creates an erotically charged atmosphere - that invites infidelities.

BEWARE of becoming a part of one.

In addition, bored, middle-aged or unhappily married couples who drink alcohol to amuse themselves will often victimize other couples. There was one such couple who made it a practice of inviting other couples over on weekends, plying them with drinks, and deliberately juggling the sleeping arrangements so that infidelities occurred.

How charming *sarcasm*

Furthermore, a feminine woman who wants to STAY married will forgo this type of invitation.

Then there's the "broad-minded" couples who take pride in their tolerance of each others bouts of drinking and spouse-swapping. They start off with the idea that since they're both so alike, they can handle the situation.

Ultimately, they find they can't take it. They either end in the divorce court or in the psychiatrist's office!

As a feminine and seductive woman, SELF-DECEPTION is definitely something that you need to be beware of. Moreover....

You can pretend to yourself that when you go to a dinner party or to the local tavern - downing one glass of alcohol after another - that you can handle yourself and it won't lead to regret.

You can decide in advance that getting drunk won't make a difference in a quality man's attitude toward you.

Or you can get REAL and know that;

1. When a certain type of man sees a woman drunk and alone, his first thought is going to be of sex.

2. When a high caliber man sees a woman drunk and alone, he'll be thinking; "She'll be picked up, eventually."

However dove, if you're thinking clearly, and have observed some other woman going through the same performance, you'll KNOW what I'm talking about!

Now, let me ask you a question; do you think that a man or woman who drinks often is happy, content and at ease with their world?

No! They drink because they're frightened, hostile and/or guilty towards something in it. They feel threatened. And only a psychiatrist can try to uncover the basic hostility, fear, guilt - and to try to probe into the unhappiness to find its source.

As for the girlfriend or wife who makes a PRACTICE of getting drunk - there are several reasons for her actions;

1. She hates.

2. She wants the world to know she's unhappy.

3. She's punishing her boyfriend/husband while making an exhibition of herself.

As for the man who chronically grieves his wife or partner with a drunken performance at social gatherings, he's not acting out in blissful ignorance. He knows it is hurting her. For whatever reason, he WANTS it to hurt her (more about men who drink excessively later.)

In addition, the element of SELFISHNESS is always present in a chronic drinker's character. And in their determination to get attention (at whatever cost, discomfort or embarrassment to those around them.)

Now, what about the men and women who are successfully and happily married?

They DON'T habitually drink to excess.

And before I go to post this dove, I'd like to say this to you if you're currently tempted to forget or ease your troubles via the alcohol route;

No matter what the frustration, money problem, disappointment in in love, grief over loss.... ALCOHOL is never the answer! And if you yearn to escape in alcohol, you're maladjusted.

Furthermore, 'drowning your sorrows' doesn't work, and is a neurotic method of trying to run away from a problem rather than SOLVE it. Besides, soaking any problem in alcohol only intensifies and aggravates it, and leaves you with steadily decreasing ability to clear it up.

Finally I'd like to say that alcohol (excess) and femininity don't mix, and drunkenness is so ANTI-SEDUCTIVE and unfeminine!!

I do hope you enjoyed my article; 'Should a Feminine Woman Drink Alcohol? Alcohol and Femininity.' I'd love to hear your comments and experiences with this!

Much Love,
Melina xxx

Books and Courses for Seductive Women