Showing posts with label Self-Improvement. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Self-Improvement. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

How to Be An Ideal, Feminine and Lovely Woman

Do you want to be feminine and lovely, in personality, looks and behavior? In other words do you want to be an IDEAL woman, dove? Do I hear a "YES?" Good!

Not every woman is ideal, however, I believe that the essence to be such a woman, and to possess the qualities of an ideal woman is in every woman.


A woman's desire to be such a woman isn't really about personal vanity. It's an aspect of her SELF-RESPECT. A demand, from the deepest parts of her nature that she be known to the world in her best light. And an instinct to put her 'best foot forward' in the contest of living.

Ideal, feminine and lovely women grace any gathering. They can ignore conventions and cut a path of their own to social distinction. Lovely debutantes are more easily launched. More orchids and parties and conquests come their way.

Just about every young girl dreams of herself as becoming lovely, alluring, fateful. She may see in a much-loved singer or actress the embodiment of her OWN dreams of being the heroine of the drama. Moreover, audiences have greater sympathy for roles enacted by ideal, feminine and lovely women.

In addition, an 'ideal' woman finds her way easier from the beginning. Every rung of her ladder to success is won with less labor, not only because she's good to look at, but she's IDEAL in her personality and behavior.

If she's in the public eye, she has continuous engagements. If she's a model, she often gets the job. If she's an actress, the season's most coveted parts are frequently offered her....

Even in BUSINESS a woman should be ideal, feminine and lovely. The fact remains, that even in the world of business, a woman's beauty and femininity is an asset.


Managers find such women to be a good investment - not only because they do the job well, and are professional, but because they're classy, polished and lovely! And they'll seek their cooperation to assure their own success.

In the world of business, 'dowdy' and less than ideal girls are somewhat depressing, and they express failure, not success. And while a CEO of a company may declare that he'll never hire a pretty girl again, one suspects him of not telling the whole truth.

Furthermore, most business men admit having a preference for feminine and attractive women in the work place, and for purely business reasons (apparently, customers and clients feel similarly, as well.)

What greater tribute can a mother have than her children thinking that she's womanly and lovely? Inside and out. And surely children will feel closer to a 'young and lovely' mother, than to a 'faded and weary' mother?

The generations seem to grow closer if mothers keep themselves youthful. With the advances in self-beautification/
improvement, this is a much easier feat than it used to be.

In addition, youth is a state of mind, An exciting challenge, even! You can wake up one morning, and know that you're thirty, or even that you're forty plus. But you won't feel it unless you DRAMATIZE it.


I heard a story about a woman glancing at her calendar one day and suddenly realizing the "awful truth," it was her birthday, and she was FORTY! She dissolved in tears and felt that she couldn't face it.

When her husband came in, to dress for a celebratory birthday lunch, she told him; "I'm not going, I just can't!" To his surprised; "What's the matter with you?" she tearfully replied; "Today I'm forty!" 


"Huh," her rather unsympathetic husband responded. "You've been forty for the last five years, according to your family Bible!"

So, you see, dove, forty is a state of MIND. Even so, today is the time to take stock of your health, your beauty, and your femininity - as well as your mental agility, your interest in life, love and the pursuit of happiness!

What else can you do to retain your youth and loveliness?

Look after your health (don't wait for an emergency to occur before you take action.) Take care of your TEMPLE.

Exercise. LOSE any excess weight (curves are ideal, but excess layers and rolls of fat aren't ideal, and aren't what curves are about.)

Avoid sedatives and the excess drinking of alcohol. Trendy bars and cocktail rooms are just about everywhere, and crowded with over-dressed, and often, over-fed females - of all ages. 


Many women in their twenties drop in at their local bar, or get the "girls" together for wine and cocktails - with more drinking than socializing. They think they need the 'lift' of a drink to enjoy a night out. However, this 'lift' is only temporary, and when it wears off, they 'need' another drink.

The effect of alcohol on a woman thirty and above is dismaying. She not only gets 'blowzy,' noisy and  unladylike. She puts on weight, loses her looks, and her self-respect.


High value men don't abide such females.

This also isn't a preachment against the drinking of alcohol, dove; you needn't be a teetotaler, wear a white ribbon or sign a pledge. But don't turn to alcohol to get you over the rough spots, or see it as the only way to have a good time.


How unimaginative. Furthermore, if you're seeking REAL love, romance and affection, you won't find any of them in a bar. They just don't serve any of those ingredients there!

Sedatives, over time, make you nervous, so you'll take another pill to quiet you. There's a real danger in popping sedative pills too, as they give you no real rest, or surcease from your depression. 

You always have to wake up and face your problems, as well - unless, in a stupor you take too many, and needless tragedy! Out goes another woman who took an overdose of pills!

Get your colors done. You're either a 'Spring,' a 'Summer,' an 'Autumn' or a 'Winter.' Your skin tone is the most important factor in determining your colors.

Get a wardrobe analysis done by an professional image consultant (or learn how to do it yourself,) and update your wardrobe to include more feminine and becoming outfits.

When you're going on a date, or spending some quality 'alone' time with your man, put on your BEST garment.

Wear makeup every day. Even if it's minimal. Older women who wear makeup (foundation, concealer and/or powder,) look years younger than the women who don't. This is because wearing makeup on your face protects your skin from the elements.

Do weekly manicures, pedicures and hair conditioning treatments.


Grow your hair long, or at least to a length that makes you the most womanly and becoming. 

If you're an older woman, embrace your grey hair. 'Silverette Sirens' are exclusive, and the silver tones in a woman's hair can be particularly lovely! Often there's no loss of beauty in the hair, even after it's turned gray, if the hair's itself is magnificently healthy and luxurious. 

When nature turns your hair to silver, you become one of that exclusive group; the 'Silverettes.' And don't ever say of yourself; "I'm a gray-haired woman." Say proudly; "I'm a Silverette!" 

See the difference, cupcake?

Get a little 'nip and tuck' done if you think that will help you to look and feel better.

Take care of your teeth. Use whitening strips to whiten your teeth if they're stained. If your teeth are really bad, consider getting porcelain veneers.

Get enough Vitamin D. Aim for at least ten minutes of sunlight on the back of your hands each day.


If you're self-conscious, or a 'Tomboy' or introverted, don't allow yourself to say; "That's ME. That's my disposition. I can't help it." You CAN help it. To say that you can't is to admit that your own mental processes are beyond your control. 

To accept the domination of any negative thought or emotion is to condemn yourself to always being a nobody.

I think that there's not a woman alive who doesn't want to be an ideal, feminine and lovely woman - if she tells the TRUTH about it, that is! However, some women won't admit this, even to themselves.

Moreover, many women merely pretend to scoff at the idea of being pretty and feminine, and will tell you it's unnecessary and "shallow." But life has often been disappointing to these women, and they're putting on a front.

Furthermore, dove, many significantly overweight and/or masculine types of women will cast aside the desire to be 'ideal,' as if beauty and slimness never mattered to them. But they KNOW (even though they may adamantly deny it,) that all they have would be worth twice as much if they had ideal beauty and femininity.

When they look in the mirror, with no one around to see them unmasked, they wish they were beautiful too. They do, they do, they do. And don't believe a woman who tells you otherwise!

Once they get married, some women start to "let themselves go," and make no effort to create an atmosphere of gracious femininity and charm. If only they would make an effort to spruce themselves up a bit, and don a nice outfit when hubby is due home (looking as attractive as possible.) The husband would be pleased. 


He may ask; "What's all this?" But he'll like it.

Remember, lovely, when your husband married you he evidently found you attractive. If you've been letting him down the last few months or years, NOW is the the time to make amends.

Things happen to attractive women. Things come to attractive women. And romance lives with the feminine and lovely and ideal.  

Furthermore, high value men seek ideal female beauty. They also see in femininity an inspiration and the ideal. If you have, or cultivate such beauty, you'll have homage (the tribute may take different forms, but it's still tribute.)

Just as women hide in their innermost hearts their reasons for wanting beauty, so do men have reasons (as deeply rooted and buried,) for seeking beauty. A man's devotion to beauty is an expression of his idealism. 


His admiration of beauty, as well as to femininity, is his tribute to this thing which he may not be able to define, but which stirs him in unknown depths. And men who know nothing of art or aesthetics still find some bewildering satisfaction in looking at a feminine and lovely woman (an ideal woman.)

In all the history of nations, no matter how material or 'modern' the age, or how ugly the cruelty of its customs, men have turned (for inspiration of the soul) to BEAUTY.

If you're pretty and feminine and 'ideal,' men will seek you, surround you and serve you. Love will come to you - as well as a nice home, beautiful children.... Moreover, ideal women live more fully, intensely, superbly.

There, I've dared to say it! Furthermore, these are the reasons that YOU want to be beautiful, dove. Why bother to evade and conceal this truth? It's the truth, and it's always been so.

The Queen of Sheba, Scheherazade, Helen of Troy, Cleopatra, Madame Recamier, Madame de Pompadour.... these women epitomized life in their respective eras. People and events gathered around them. They're also in history because their very beauty made history. 


Things happened to them too, that can't be forgotten, because they were extraordinary women of excellence - and LOVELY.

The ideal woman of today casts a similar golden glow over her surroundings. Her radiant beauty may make hers a charmed life as well, and enable her to rise from less-than-ideal surroundings.

While beauty means so much to men, and the world, it's a woman's greatest privilege and duty to be beautiful
The Art of Beautification for Seductresses. A beautiful woman is a delight to every one who knows her. She dispenses something that people NEED. 

And it's a part of every woman's mission to supply that need!

The keynote of modern beauty is naturalness. By this, I'm not referring to a face that's bare of makeup, or to hair that's never been colored. I'm referring to the most exquisite grooming and a rigid standard of cleanliness. 


Moreover, all our efforts to be beautiful are based on an understanding of the processes of nature.

In seeking the beauty that's in you, who knows what lovely proportions your figure will take on when you lose those extra pounds? Or when it's developed as the Greeks developed their models for Aphrodite and Diana?

Who knows what velvety bloom your skin may have when it's perfectly healthy? Who knows what radiance your personality may possess when you release its powers?

Try by every means to accomplish it. However, the most potent means is already in your hands, and in the wonderful recuperative and REGENERATIVE powers of your own body.

All your muscles grow and change with the months, and you can TRANSFORM them into the mold of ideal female beauty. 


Your skin cells die and are replaced every day. You can take advantage of that change to improve the texture and tint of your complexion.

Furthermore, your mind is a stream of impressions, thoughts and reactions, and you can divert that stream to record only beautiful and positive thoughts in the lines of your face - and in the rhythm of your vibrations.

You CAN be beautiful, dove. You can be an ideal, feminine and lovely woman. Nature meant that you should be!


You should be womanly, radiant, desirable. If you're not, it's only because through ignorance, or past hurts, that you're thwarting all the powers which should flow from the infinite through you.

You have only to go back to the source, and put all your physical, mental and spiritual forces in tune with nature. And while you're doing that, anoint yourself (put on some lovely perfume, while anointing yourself with the Holy Spirit.)

And you'll be beautiful again.


Anyhow cupcake, I do hop you enjoyed my post; 'How to Be An Ideal, Feminine and Lovely woman!'

Much love,
Melina xxx

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Feminissima - School of Feminine Arts

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The Sedona Method


A secret of a modern seductress to achieve any goal she desires, and become a woman of
excellence. The Sedona Method isn't a form of therapy or programming. Instead, it works to help you to dramatically change and improve yourself and your LIFE. I highly recommend this method!



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Saturday, July 30, 2011

How to Be Fascinating

 How to Be Fascinating - Enrich Your Experience

To enrich your experience, and your mental and spiritual outlook, make an effort to meet people, to make friends, to DO things with people. Join clubs; they bring you in touch with many people. 


Join classes to study things with others. Furthermore, learn to do many of the things that others are doing, so that you'll not be left out.

Learn to dance, or to play tennis.... or any other sport which will bring you into companionship with people - under pleasant and healthy conditions. 


PLAY is also as necessary to a woman as food and sleep is, dove. Moreover, play with people, it's stimulating and refreshing!

How to Be Fascinating - Have Many Interests

The richest and most fascinating people are those who have MANY interests. You may be fascinated by jazz music. You may love the theater. You may like to amuse yourself by cooking exotic recipes, and you'll search for the ingredients at the markets, in the foreign quarters of your city.

Furthermore, do things outside the NORMAL routine of your life. Get some new hobbies. Collect things; flowers, coins, stamps, antiques.... anything. Broaden your interests, and you'll become more and more interesting :-)

Broaden your interests by learning something about everything. It's a mistake, though, to be pedantic about your knowledge of things. Nobody is more tiresome than the intellectual prig!

Having MANY interests and passions is the fascination of the Advanced Femmes, and it's a fascination which every woman can cultivate, to a certain degree.


How to Be Fascinating - Expand Your Intellect

You can begin to expand your intellect by reading the daily paper every morning. REALLY read it, doll, including the editorials and reviews!

Most women are content merely to skip nimbly through the headlines, and more often than not, go strait to the celebrity pages.

Read books in every field. Read about travel and religion and philosophy. Read about psychology and cooking and natural therapies. Read about gardening and history and art.


Furthermore, the lives of famous people, biographies and autobiographies, are enchanting things to begin on.

How to Be Fascinating - Take A
Lively Interest In Others

To become fascinating, you want to awaken your mind, as well as it fill it with good things, in order to enliven your conversations. But remember too, lovely, it takes two to make a conversation. And half of a woman's charm is to be a good listener.

LET other people talk. They'll love you for it. And don't interrupt!


Don't let yourself get bored, however. In doing this, your own widening interests will help you. For as you expand your outlook to embrace a wider and wider horizon, you'll be surprised to realize that more and more things interest you, and fewer and fewer things bore you!

Being a good listener will always make people like you. But being a good listener isn't a PASSIVE talent, dove. It doesn't mean sitting dumb and inert while talk rains at you. Far from it. 


Nothing is more discouraging to the talker. Nothing makes you seem more dull and uninteresting!

A good listener takes a LIVELY interest in all that's being said. 


Do MORE than listen to the words. Listen with your mind. Follow the mind of the talker (people soon sense your mental inattention, if you're only hearing with your ears.)

On the other hand, your responsive mental interest will flatter and stimulate a person to keep talking. So, show people that you're entertained by what they're saying. 


Conversation is like a game of tennis. If your partner serves you ball after ball, and you allow them all to drop about you unheeded, he or she will soon tire of the game. But if you watch their play, returning their balls, and keep the talk volleying back and forth with lively interest, they'll ENJOY the game. 

And seek you for a partner again.

How to Be Fascinating - Feel The Mood and Adjust Yourself to It

When you're talking, you can sometimes feel the attentive listener responding like a vibrating chord. You sense when his interest wanes, however, even if there's been no sign of inattention. 


This will embarrass you, cloud your mind.... yes, but with a responsive listener your thoughts fly. Your tongue is glib. And you feel the stimulus of their ALERTNESS.

Your vibrations (your 'vibe,') are always reinforced by a responsive vibration. This phenomenon is multiplied a hundredfold in the theater, as all experiences of personality are. Any actor or actress will also tell you that when they feel the sympathy, the interest, and the response of the audience.


It carries them on to play their parts with greater zest.

Actors dread a half-filled theater. However, they thrill to the high-keyed expectancy in the air of a first night, or a gala performance. They can also feel their audience's mood and adjust themselves to it.

In a lesser degree, that same vibrant current underlies every conversation. You break the current, if you fidget or grow bored. However, you strengthen the current when you attend with all of your mind. 


Being a vibrant listener will always make people like you.It's a charming asset and easily cultivated.

The Great Ladies, and the Advanced Femmes of history took the trouble to INFORM themselves - about the interests, the work, and the hobbies of every one whom they received in their 'salon.' 


Thus, a Great Lady was prepared to lead people on to talk about themselves, while she responded and questioned them intelligently. And every one who met this brilliant woman testified to her charm, her radiance and her spontaneous sympathy.  

Perhaps this was one of her greatest secrets. 

You can adopt the secret for your own.

How to Be Fascinating - Be Charming

If there's a man you wish to attract, find out all you can about his work, his passions, what he reads, what he does for amusement. Then read up on his work, even get books from your public library, if necessary, that will help you to understand it.

Furthermore, dove, learn the games or the sports that he enjoys. Then you'll be able to talk to him in his OWN language about the things he hopes to accomplish, and the things he has done. 


Furthermore, you'll be equipped to listen to him animatedly, and he'll find you fascinating and attractive!

The subject of 'feminine charm' has aroused much interest on my blogs. Most relationship experts will also admit that it's as important for a woman to have CHARM as it is to have beauty. Indeed, if she has charm, she can actually be plain, but still be attractive, magnetic.... fascinating.

Charm is not synonymous with personality, however, and it's not as broad a term as personality. Charm is just one aspect, though a very important aspect of personality. It's the power of winning and pleasing people. 


Some lucky women have this quality as a 'gift from the gods.' Others LEARN it Charm Warfare – The Art of Charm for Seductresses

To a certain extent, of course, your charm is expressed by what you say. Common sense will also tell you that you must be careful not to give offense in any way. But to be charming, you must go further than that, and give pleasure by the grace and tact in your attitude toward people.

An old saying comes to mind; "you can catch more bees with honey than you can with vinegar." Remember this quaint truth in all your dealings with people. 


In addition,a quick, lashing tongue hurts you more than it hurts any one else. And complaint, sourness, cattiness etc, cuts you off from sympathetic contacts. 

Be GRACIOUS, enthusiastically attentive to people, and they'll feel your charm :-)

We are all so busy, so hurried, these days, that we can grow entirely concentrated on our own interests. People sense this exclusion and are repelled by it. Moreover, we must utilize our time wisely, and work more effectively, if we don't want to lose all our power to ATTRACT people.


Anyhow, cupcake, I do hope you enjoyed my post; 'How to Be Fascinating!' 

Much love,
Melina xxx


Books and Courses for Seductive Women

Feminissima - School of Feminine Arts

Give Up Your day Job With My Work From Home, Money-Making Blueprints (Can Be Used Anywhere in the World)

Work From Home Moms & Girls


The Sedona Method


A secret of a modern seductress to achieve any goal she desires, and become a woman of
excellence. The Sedona Method isn't a form of therapy or programming. Instead, it works to help you to dramatically change and improve yourself and your LIFE. I highly recommend this method!



My Other Femininity Blog


The Art of Being Feminine

Saturday, July 16, 2011

Should a Woman Tell?

In the headstrong folly of youth many women took a step down the 'primrose path,' then repented of their mistakes, and turned their back on them.

In addition, a woman may have washed the slate (with her tears of remorse,) and had the courage to rebuild her life in a place where her early escapades are unknown. 


Then, LOVE comes to her. A good man offers her marriage (and a respectable place in society.) Therefore, the question she often asks herself is; “should a woman tell? Should I tell him the story of my life before I marry him?"

Should a woman TELL a man all the details of her past, dove? What do you think? 


In my mind the question of what’s right in this situation doesn’t really enter into the matter unless the man shall bare his soul too (like a “pre-matrimonial confessional.”)

However, that being said, I also believe that there’s no REAL reason why a man or a woman should tell every detail of their past, or of every time that they strayed off of the straight and narrow path! 


Why would that be necessary?

It's true that a couple who know the worst of each other before they marry would start out their life together on a foundation of honest understanding. But nobody could claim that it would INCREASE their esteem or affection for each other.


On the contrary, they would have probably swept away every illusion (it's always ideal to have the air of a mysterious woman
The Art of Mystique - for Seductresses,) and possibly, the prior faith in each other.

**And perhaps they've also now called into being a 'ghost' of the past that they can’t possibly banish, and that will forever stand between them.

MEN have have the wisdom to perceive this. They realize that what a woman doesn't know doesn't hurt her (while the thing that a woman knows she worries herself to death over!) 


Moreover, FEW men are foolish enough to give a woman a blow-by-blow account of their past lives with which a woman can torture herself over, and him. In fact, cupcake, a man usually draws a discreet veil over episodes that are best forgotten, and deals only in generalities when referring to his bachelor days. 

Smart women are sensible enough to let it go at that! Besides, what woman would really want her man to tell her things that would STAB her every time she thought of them in the future, and that would eat like a canker into her memory?

In addition, it’s only when the case is reversed, and when it's the woman who has a blot on her past, that she wonders if it's the right thing, the honorable thing, to tell the man who wants to marry her about it.


Of course, a woman often finds herself bound in this, by the double code of morals, which makes one standard for the woman and another standard for the man. And rather humorously, makes a husband feel that he’s been exceedingly let down if he discovers that his wife has a past that matches his own.

Therefore, because a woman becomes afraid that in future years a husband may find out about her past life (or is driven by her conscience, or by the need for relief in sharing the burden with another,) the woman nearly always tells everything to the man before marriage.

Sometimes it drives the man away from her. But sometimes the man loves the woman enough to marry her, in spite of her revelations. 


However, while a man may forgive a woman, he never forgets, dove. And he’s often haunted by the memories of what she's revealed.

Moreover, the man may never be able to fully trust the woman again, and never wholly BELIEVE in her again. 


A man also has to be a bigger-souled man than most men if he doesn’t reproach her with her past when they argue, and use it as a 'whip' to scourge her with when he’s angry with her.

So, should a woman tell, dove?

Of course, when a man's or a woman's past life has in it some sinister truth or curse that will inevitably reach out and lay a hand on the future of the one he or she marries, and any possible children they may have, he or she is bound by honor to TELL the other about it.

However, when there’s nothing of this kind, nothing but a youthful folly, a mistake, a blunder in the dark, or a few errors in judgement bitterly repented of and lived down, it seems to me WISER to wash the slate clean, and to make a fresh start *smile.*

What YOU have done in the past, lovely, doesn’t matter so much as what you’re doing now, and what you’re going to do!


And it often happens that because a man or a woman has stumbled in the past, they walk more carefully than others among the pitfalls of life.

Furthermore, out of the sorrows and repentance for a woman's past mistakes, she often experiences a compassion,
a tenderness and an understanding that makes her a BETTER woman than the vast majority who’ve lived ‘perfect’ lives.

The brave soul keeps its own secrets, and takes its own punishment in silence. It also takes a strong woman to keep from blabbing, and it never PAYS any woman to tell anything that she doesn't wish the world to know.


Anyhow, cupcake, I do hope you found my post 'Should a Woman Tell?' helpful!

Much love,
Melina xx

Books and Courses for Seductive Women

Feminissima - School of Feminine Arts
Give Up Your day Job With My Work From Home, Money-Making Blueprints (Can Be Used Anywhere in the World)

Work From Home Moms & Girls


The Sedona Method


A secret of a modern seductress to achieve any goal she desires, and become a woman of
excellence. The Sedona Method isn't a form of therapy or programming. Instead, it works to help you to dramatically change and improve yourself and your LIFE. I highly recommend this method!



My Other Femininity Blog


The Art of Being Feminine


Tuesday, July 12, 2011

The Art of Being a Woman - Fulfilling The Feminine Role

Much of the effort in becoming a feminine and ideal woman is in discovering who and WHAT you are, as well as what kind of woman you really want to be - your authentic self. 

However, dove, this can be a source of conflict in this modern society because the views of the feminine role have become muddled!  

Your view of the feminine role is also likely to be quite different from other women. And it's rare in a group of women for everyone to agree on what makes an ideal woman. Only YOU can discover what's ideal for you - the real you.

In addition, you can't just blindly accept the feminine role that you were conditioned by your mother to fill, or that others tried to condition you to fill. You must discover it for yourself, lovely, by learning the art of being a woman. You have your OWN path to follow.

Be your own woman, an independent woman, and don’t allow peer pressure to force you into an inauthentic role!

You will need to try on for size everything YOURSELF; seeking the most appropriate expression of yourself, as an individual. You must also build the courage to express yourself authentically as a woman - in your looks, your personality and your character.

Women today rely strongly on cosmetics and glamor techniques as ways of being feminine, in the belief that femininity is largely a matter of OUTWARD appearance and form. From the vantage point of a feminine woman, there are so many different styles dressing as a 'feminine and ideal woman,' so many different looks in hair and makeup.... 


And they're all important.

In addition, these things make the art of being a woman fun *smile.* However, true femininity isn't a mask or a costume to be put on each day to impress others (except for those women who are unable to accept their gender.) And the truly feminine and ideal woman has developed her feminine capacities to the fullest.


And has accepted and embraced the FEMININE approach to life.

A feminine and ideal woman may use cosmetics a lot, and sheath herself in glamor on occasion, but she doesn't think of these as more than external adornments, lovely. Furthermore, her real femininity lies at the core of her personality, and it will respond warmly only to genuine masculinity and to high value men. Not to half-men or abusers or players!

In addition, true beauty comes from the INSIDE. It can’t be found beneath a load of cosmetics and surgical alterations. When you recognize that you’re a beautiful woman on the inside, you’ll broadcast that awareness on the outside.

You're beautiful, dove!

In order to perfect the art of being a woman, and in order to clarify and accept the feminine role for yourself, you must have (or find,) some source of male approval. A woman can be truly feminine and ideal only by giving and receiving honest responses in her associations with men.

However, in order to elicit a response from men, a positive response, the sad business of being blatantly "sexy" or "man crazy" merely describes the frantic efforts of a woman to gain the reassurance she has failed to receive at home.

Naturally, a FATHER is the best male figure to offer male approval to a woman, and can help out a great deal in the early years of adolescence. A father can also appreciate a daughter's efforts to become/be beautiful and ideal woman, and give her the masculine admiration she so desperately needs.

Exposed to all kinds of threats to our feminine integrity, if we had fathers who called us sweet nicknames (such as "princess,") and gave us a feeling of being precious, we'll generally live our lives relatively unscathed. With a feeling of our own WORTH that others can't help but respect.

A LACK of this important contact can have devastating effects! The father who's too busy (or too uninterested) to notice his daughter, or who reacts with heavy disapproval toward her, will find her trying to satisfy her needs, prematurely (or even promiscuously,) with other males.

It will be a futile and tragic effort, dove; unless a woman gains a clear appreciation of herself as a feminine and ideal woman - a woman aware of her personal strengths and POWER (instead of depending solely on the reflections that she sees in the eyes of men.)

**Not all of us had supportive and encouraging dad's growing up. That's why we may have to find a source of male approval elsewhere (from a high value male, of course.)

However, during the initial explorations into the art of being a woman, and the feminine role, a father is the biggest man in a female's life.

Nevertheless, if you don't love yourself INDEPENDENTLY (of the approval of men,) and if you've failed to build self-confidence, cupcake, you'll feel that you must, at all costs, attract some sort of masculine attention in order to live with yourself.

You'll also find yourself acting (and being) DESPERATE, instead of operating as a self-assured and feminine woman!

Your image of yourself is the CORE of your feminine personality. Unless you genuinely like and respect yourself as a feminine and ideal woman, others will not really like and respect you (although they may pretend to in order to get what they want from you.)

Accept FULL responsibility for your life. Don’t live as a 'Patsy,' a doormat, a sheep, or a victim. Stop giving away your feminine power!

In the art of being a woman, you must accept that you alone are the master 'creatix' of your life, and that no one is coming to live it for you. Furthermore, take responsibility for your own financial future.
 

OWN and embrace your femininity and power!

KEEP your heart open. Regardless of how badly you may have been hurt in the past, keep your heart open. You’re actually a lot stronger than you think. And the rewards of LOVE far outweigh the risks of being hurt again. You’re here to express love, to give and receive love, not to live in fear.

Embrace your sexuality consciously. You and you alone must decide the role that sex will play in your life, and thus learn about yourself as a woman, as a feminine personality. If you want it and enjoy it with your man, let that be enough!

Different women will have widely varying opinions on what kind of sexual expression they personally prefer as wives. But the commonality is that they consciously decide and accept what's right for them, regardless of how other people feel about it.

Sex before you're really READY for it, may hamper the development of your feminine role by curtailing other important lessons. It's also your femininity, rather than your femaleness that you're trying to cultivate.

Become WISE; as a woman, you're naturally highly intuitive, so work on deepening your ability to trust that intuition! Keep learning and growing, life (and the art of being a woman) is your university :-) 


In the long run, your wisdom and experience will become one of your greatest assets. Both as a way to meet your own needs and to help others.

Practice SELF-CARE; avoid becoming overwhelmed (or taken advantage of,) by taking time for yourself. Give yourself permission to do what you enjoy. Demands from other people can wait! 


Accept that you can’t do everything for everyone, and that you can’t give to others when you’re empty inside.

EXPRESS your creative side; cultivate outlets for creative self-expression. Explore music, art, writing, poetry etc. Build a business. Be artistic (this is about the art of being a woman, you know!) Put your ideas into physical form.

Find your VOICE; build the courage to express yourself authentically as a feminine and ideal woman. Speak your truth too, you deserve to be heard! If others react negatively, that’s their problem!

ASK for what you want; you can’t expect others to be mind-readers. You also have to teach others how you want to be treated - not by dropping hints but by telling them directly. This isn't being selfish! And if you don’t speak up for yourself, who will?

Find your GIRLS. Consciously build and nurture a supportive network of gal pals, as well as positive relationships. Drop relationships that drain you, maintaining them is self-abuse. If you don’t like your current relationships, it’s up to you to change that.

Surround yourself with GOOD people, lovely, who love you and inspire you. You deserve the very best relationships!

You should, however, try to clarify your OWN ideas and feelings, so that you know what you honestly think and believe, as opposed to what others suggest you should take as your viewpoint. 


If, for instance, you don't like drinking excessively, you needn't feel pressured to try. Pass it off lightly.

Being a bit different (without seeming prudish or making others feel uncomfortable,) is a GOOD thing. And not a bad way to begin building up your personalized version of femininity :-)

Even if, on occasion, you think that it's necessary to do what others do, you can comply without surrendering your own clear standards and feelings.

Perhaps the surest guide in the art of being a woman and fulfilling the feminine role is;

Your own aspirations.

Your feelings about the kind of woman you want to be.

The kinds of goals you're striving for.

The kind of life you hope to establish for yourself.

Being clear on such questions may help you to decide a lot of things that confront you, because you can then see them in some perspective and evaluate them in terms of what you personally want. Admittedly, this in itself can be quite a difficult task, but a very satisfying one!

When you're clear about yourself and what you've discovered (as a feminine and UNIQUE woman,) and what you like and want, you're far freer to pursue your goals and avoid the wastefulness that results from yielding to the pressure of others.

This is the TRUE art of being a woman and fulfilling your feminine role!

What kind of woman do you wish to be, dove?


Much love,
Melina xxx

Books and Courses for Seductive Women

Feminissima - School of Feminine Arts
Give Up Your day Job With My Work From Home, Money-Making Blueprints (Can Be Used Anywhere in the World)

Work From Home Moms & Girls


The Sedona Method


A secret of a modern seductress to achieve any goal she desires, and become a woman of
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