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Tuesday, July 12, 2011

The Art of Being a Woman - Fulfilling The Feminine Role

10:04 PM ayionk No comments

Much of the effort in becoming a feminine and ideal woman is in discovering who and WHAT you are, as well as what kind of woman you really want to be - your authentic self.

However, dove, this can be a source of conflict in this modern society because the views of the feminine role have become muddled!

Your view of the feminine role is also likely to be quite different from other women. And it's rare in a group of women for everyone to agree on what makes an ideal woman. Only YOU can discover what's ideal for you - the real you.

In addition, you can't just blindly accept the feminine role that you were conditioned by your mother to fill, or that others tried to condition you to fill. You must discover it for yourself, lovely, by learning the art of being a woman. You have your OWN path to follow.

Be your own woman, an independent woman, and don’t allow peer pressure to force you into an inauthentic role!

You will need to try on for size everything YOURSELF; seeking the most appropriate expression of yourself, as an individual. You must also build the courage to express yourself authentically as a woman - in your looks, your personality and your character.

Women today rely strongly on cosmetics and glamor techniques as ways of being feminine, in the belief that femininity is largely a matter of OUTWARD appearance and form. From the vantage point of a feminine woman, there are so many different styles dressing as a 'feminine and ideal woman,' so many different looks in hair and makeup....

And they're all important.

In addition, these things make the art of being a woman fun *smile.* However, true femininity isn't a mask or a costume to be put on each day to impress others (except for those women who are unable to accept their gender.) And the truly feminine and ideal woman has developed her feminine capacities to the fullest.

And has accepted and embraced the FEMININE approach to life.

A feminine and ideal woman may use cosmetics a lot, and sheath herself in glamor on occasion, but she doesn't think of these as more than external adornments, lovely. Furthermore, her real femininity lies at the core of her personality, and it will respond warmly only to genuine masculinity and to high value men. Not to half-men or abusers or players!

In addition, true beauty comes from the INSIDE. It can’t be found beneath a load of cosmetics and surgical alterations. When you recognize that you’re a beautiful woman on the inside, you’ll broadcast that awareness on the outside.

You're beautiful, dove!

In order to perfect the art of being a woman, and in order to clarify and accept the feminine role for yourself, you must have (or find,) some source of male approval. A woman can be truly feminine and ideal only by giving and receiving honest responses in her associations with men.

However, in order to elicit a response from men, a positive response, the sad business of being blatantly "sexy" or "man crazy" merely describes the frantic efforts of a woman to gain the reassurance she has failed to receive at home.

Naturally, a FATHER is the best male figure to offer male approval to a woman, and can help out a great deal in the early years of adolescence. A father can also appreciate a daughter's efforts to become/be beautiful and ideal woman, and give her the masculine admiration she so desperately needs.

Exposed to all kinds of threats to our feminine integrity, if we had fathers who called us sweet nicknames (such as "princess,") and gave us a feeling of being precious, we'll generally live our lives relatively unscathed. With a feeling of our own WORTH that others can't help but respect.

A LACK of this important contact can have devastating effects! The father who's too busy (or too uninterested) to notice his daughter, or who reacts with heavy disapproval toward her, will find her trying to satisfy her needs, prematurely (or even promiscuously,) with other males.

It will be a futile and tragic effort, dove; unless a woman gains a clear appreciation of herself as a feminine and ideal woman - a woman aware of her personal strengths and POWER (instead of depending solely on the reflections that she sees in the eyes of men.)

**Not all of us had supportive and encouraging dad's growing up. That's why we may have to find a source of male approval elsewhere (from a high value male, of course.)

However, during the initial explorations into the art of being a woman, and the feminine role, a father is the biggest man in a female's life.

Nevertheless, if you don't love yourself INDEPENDENTLY (of the approval of men,) and if you've failed to build self-confidence, cupcake, you'll feel that you must, at all costs, attract some sort of masculine attention in order to live with yourself.

You'll also find yourself acting (and being) DESPERATE, instead of operating as a self-assured and feminine woman!

Your image of yourself is the CORE of your feminine personality. Unless you genuinely like and respect yourself as a feminine and ideal woman, others will not really like and respect you (although they may pretend to in order to get what they want from you.)

Accept FULL responsibility for your life. Don’t live as a 'Patsy,' a doormat, a sheep, or a victim. Stop giving away your feminine power!

In the art of being a woman, you must accept that you alone are the master 'creatix' of your life, and that no one is coming to live it for you. Furthermore, take responsibility for your own financial future.

OWN and embrace your femininity and power!

KEEP your heart open. Regardless of how badly you may have been hurt in the past, keep your heart open. You’re actually a lot stronger than you think. And the rewards of LOVE far outweigh the risks of being hurt again. You’re here to express love, to give and receive love, not to live in fear.

Embrace your sexuality consciously. You and you alone must decide the role that sex will play in your life, and thus learn about yourself as a woman, as a feminine personality. If you want it and enjoy it with your man, let that be enough!

Different women will have widely varying opinions on what kind of sexual expression they personally prefer as wives. But the commonality is that they consciously decide and accept what's right for them, regardless of how other people feel about it.

Sex before you're really READY for it, may hamper the development of your feminine role by curtailing other important lessons. It's also your femininity, rather than your femaleness that you're trying to cultivate.

Become WISE; as a woman, you're naturally highly intuitive, so work on deepening your ability to trust that intuition! Keep learning and growing, life (and the art of being a woman) is your university :-)

In the long run, your wisdom and experience will become one of your greatest assets. Both as a way to meet your own needs and to help others.

Practice SELF-CARE; avoid becoming overwhelmed (or taken advantage of,) by taking time for yourself. Give yourself permission to do what you enjoy. Demands from other people can wait!

Accept that you can’t do everything for everyone, and that you can’t give to others when you’re empty inside.

EXPRESS your creative side; cultivate outlets for creative self-expression. Explore music, art, writing, poetry etc. Build a business. Be artistic (this is about the art of being a woman, you know!) Put your ideas into physical form.

Find your VOICE; build the courage to express yourself authentically as a feminine and ideal woman. Speak your truth too, you deserve to be heard! If others react negatively, that’s their problem!

ASK for what you want; you can’t expect others to be mind-readers. You also have to teach others how you want to be treated - not by dropping hints but by telling them directly. This isn't being selfish! And if you don’t speak up for yourself, who will?

Find your GIRLS. Consciously build and nurture a supportive network of gal pals, as well as positive relationships. Drop relationships that drain you, maintaining them is self-abuse. If you don’t like your current relationships, it’s up to you to change that.

Surround yourself with GOOD people, lovely, who love you and inspire you. You deserve the very best relationships!

You should, however, try to clarify your OWN ideas and feelings, so that you know what you honestly think and believe, as opposed to what others suggest you should take as your viewpoint.

If, for instance, you don't like drinking excessively, you needn't feel pressured to try. Pass it off lightly.

Being a bit different (without seeming prudish or making others feel uncomfortable,) is a GOOD thing. And not a bad way to begin building up your personalized version of femininity :-)

Even if, on occasion, you think that it's necessary to do what others do, you can comply without surrendering your own clear standards and feelings.

Perhaps the surest guide in the art of being a woman and fulfilling the feminine role is;

Your own aspirations.

Your feelings about the kind of woman you want to be.

The kinds of goals you're striving for.

The kind of life you hope to establish for yourself.

Being clear on such questions may help you to decide a lot of things that confront you, because you can then see them in some perspective and evaluate them in terms of what you personally want. Admittedly, this in itself can be quite a difficult task, but a very satisfying one!

When you're clear about yourself and what you've discovered (as a feminine and UNIQUE woman,) and what you like and want, you're far freer to pursue your goals and avoid the wastefulness that results from yielding to the pressure of others.

This is the TRUE art of being a woman and fulfilling your feminine role!

What kind of woman do you wish to be, dove?

Much love,

Melina xxx

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Women of Excellence, Femininity and Charm

12:05 AM ayionk No comments

"Once or twice in a life-time we are permitted to enjoy the charm of noble manners in the presence of a man or woman who have no bar in their nature, but whose character emanates freely in their word and gesture.

A beautiful form is better than a beautiful face; a beautiful behavior is better than a beautiful form; it gives a higher pleasure than statues or pictures. It is the finest of the fine arts."

There's a wonderful attribute of personality which belongs to the most feminine, ideal and SEDUCTIVE women - just as color and fragrance belongs to the flower, and, light and color belongs to the jewel. This may be referred to as "feminine charm."

Feminine charm is an ART, dove, but it also suggests magic. It could even be seen as a type of mental sorcery and warfare (Madame Recamier was a woman who was particularly good at this type of sorcery and warfare :-))

The word "charm" in its most basic sense, may be taken to cover the art of general social adjustment, ranging from the the simplest of common courtesies to the highest beauty of ceremony.

The Japanese geisha have mastered the delightful art of charm Charm Warfare – The Art of Charm for Seductresses , and have been mastering it for centuries. And the ever-increasing complexity and demands of modern society puts an ever-increasing PREMIUM on a woman's social behavior.

**Nevertheless, you only have to look at the younger women of today to start wondering if the breed of charming, feminine and well-mannered girls will soon be EXTINCT. I've personally noticed too, that many teenage girls are dressing more like under-age hookers than delightfully feminine enchantresses.

In addition, just by listening to them, you'd think that some of them came from pigsties, and that their habits must be as vulgar as their conversation!

Even grown women today can be as rude, crude, slovenly and ANTI-SEDUCTIVE. However, there's another trait that makes a woman anti-seductive, but often without her realizing it.... snobbishness (a hallmark of the unsure.)

Only true breeding and personal cultivation consists in avoiding all forms of anti-seductive behavior, and attending to the ABC's of personal excellence, femininity and charm with care. And with a regard for the sensibilities of others, and a concern for the DIGNITY of one's self!

Furthermore lovely, QUALITY men judge women by similar standards, or the lack thereof. For example, a man will judge a woman by;

The way she dresses (and how much skin she chooses to bare in public.)

The way she speaks, and whether she refrains from cussing/swearing and vulgarity.

How feminine she is in her behavior.

How poised, graceful and lady-like she is.

How warm, charming, gracious and hospitable she is.

How much substance and propriety she portrays.

How much value she appears to offer.

The standards she appears to have.

Surely each of us has something to recommend to each other, and to quality men, besides the clothes we wear, the furniture we own or the cars we drive? And looking around us lovely, I'm sure you'll agree with me that it's necessary to emphasize (again and again,) the ABC's of personal excellence, femininity and charm!

In ancient Greece, if a hetaera (a Grecian courtesan,) was feminine and beautiful she was deified, if charming she was adored. They were indeed women of excellence as far as cultivating one's intellect and feminine charms were concerned.

Furthermore, the hetaera learned that the rightful path in life consisted in passing from beautiful manners to beautiful thoughts, from beautiful thoughts to beautiful aspirations, from beautiful aspirations to beautiful meditations - which was considered "beauty supreme."
It was Aspasia (a Milesian woman and hetaera who became famous for her involvement with the Athenian statesman Pericle,) who's beauty first attracted Pericles. But she was more than just a beauty, she was a woman of excellence, charm and spirituelle!

Aspasia was said to have advised Pericles concerning the conduct of the state, and even to have written some of his best speeches.

**Remember, beauty does attract a man, cupcake, but only charm and graciousness and EXCELLENCE can detain.

Gifted and accomplished, the Greek hetaera were the only women with whom an enlightened Athenian male could converse. Generally, their conversations were with the artists, philosophers and the intelligentsia of their city.

Their distinction from other women was extreme. Plato had one of them for muse. Sophocles another. And they devoted themselves to the study of every feminine art that contributed toward being charming, delightful and fascinating.

The hetaera were superior to other women in more ways than one. Like the Venetian and French courtesans, they were women of excellence, as well as the intellectual EQUALS of men.

The men of Athens would sometimes persuade their wives to come to Aspasia's house and listen to her arguments. This says a lot dove, about the FASCINATION of Aspasia, an ancient Greek hetaera, and that respectable wives actually came to her house to hear what she had to say.

Cleopatra, semi-Greek, and a daughter of the Ptolomies, had the 'killer charm' of the hetaera, as well as of the all the seductress women of history. To aptitudes natural and great, she added a varied assortment of feminine accomplishments.

It's said that Cleopatra could talk to any one in any tongue. Admittedly, that was probably an exaggeration. But, she certainly was an ambitious woman, as well as lettered, charming, feminine, seductive....

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A woman of excellence never fails to appreciate and cultivate these, and similar aptitudes. She's the woman who looks up to the great ladies The World's Great Ladies, Advanced Femmes and Femi... , and to the charming, the well-mannered and to the "lovely."

And to the women who've lifted themselves up from the masses, with personal and vocational achievementS, to move across a stage of their OWN own setting (while other women would never think of interesting themselves in such matters, concerning themselves merely with shallow, trivial things.)

Furthermore, the most feminine and seductive women are IMPECCABLE, in their personal presentation The Art of Beautification for Seductresses , in their womanliness, in their behavior.... And are impressed by the simple niceties of life; cleanliness and health; beauty and elegance; and the graceful accoutrements of life.

This is the first rung on the ladder for those who seek to climb out of the "primordial ooze," dove, and to stand out from the sea of mundane, bimbofied and defeminized women!

It's true that the world is full of JEALOUS, envious and competitive woman. The more feminine and seductive you are, the more witty, charming and radiant, and the more male attention and attraction you create, the more you'll meet with envy and jealousy.

Even with antagonism.

Yet for every social and feminine art YOU and your kind master, you get a possible host of NEW, nicer and better friends ;-)

In every big city, in every small town, there's the "mold breakers" and "Advanced Femmes" on the tree of womanhood. These are also the women who've been trained by their mothers and grandmothers, aunties and/or feminine role-models to be feminine, graceful and elegant - in everything they do!

Furthermore, with their gifts of charm, persuasion and influence, women of excellence, femininity and charm can attract the very BEST men of their generation, polishing them and causing them to make the most of themselves as men.

What the hetaera, geisha and courtesans did for older societies (in the way of contributing intellectually etc,) the young (and not so young) women of excellence, femininity and charm can do for this one. There can also be a NEW, different breed of women, as well as new models and expositions of femininity Feminissima - School of Feminine Arts

And all very empowered and interesting *smile.*

Anyhow cupcake, I do hope you enjoyed my article; 'Women of Excellence, Femininity and Charm!'
Much love,

Melina xxx

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The Art of Femininity and The Truth About Being Feminine

12:05 AM ayionk No comments

Before we even get into the art of femininity,and the truth about femininity, some women have UNREALISTIC ideas about femininity and womanliness.

They're convinced that they can't ever be queens among women because they believe;

They're too tall.

They're not beautiful enough.

They're big boned.

They're a little bit clutzy.

They don't look like Hollywood celebrities....

As a result, they feel DOOMED as far as femininity and womanliness is concerned. However lovely, regarding the art of femininity, there's no line that all women must be above, or below, physically, to be considered as REAL women.

For example, a woman may be naturally large-boned and have a deep/husky voice. But be as girly as they come! And even though she may not considered 'average' with these physical traits, both are normal.

Moreover, she's showing individual differences, not defects.

However, consider the FALSE pictures of femininity in the media and in the entertainment industry that we've all become familiar with. We see these and similar ideas of 'womanly perfection' being repeated time and time again.

From such sources we may also come to feel that femininity means being perfect, or is simply a matter of being beautiful and sexy to look at.

The truth of the matter is that magazines, movies and television shows give us a DISTORTED and rather vapid picture of femininity, and the real and important things are left out.

Moreover, they emphasize the glamor, frivolity and surface appearances, not the REAL, day-to-day qualities which make a woman successful and ideal.

They fail to mention, for instance, how important it is for femininity that a woman feel happy within herself - as a PERSON - and to respect herself as a member of her own sex (and to command respect by being respectable.)

They don't mention either the importance of being a mature and sensible individual, of cultivating one's intellect, of being able to handle the day-to-day responsibilities in life and to love others in a grown-up and altruistic way.

That's the trouble with many notions we have of femininity and womanliness today dove. It also doesn't help that many popular women's magazines and reality shows (such as 'Cosmopolitan,' 'The Hills' and 'Jersey Shore,') actually encourage women to be vapid, shallow and PROMISCUOUS.

I also want to add that the art of femininity doesn't entail becoming a model or winning a beauty contest. No, no! It entails becoming a woman of SUBSTANCE, a feminine woman, and a woman who can contribute something real and of value to society.

Now, there's nothing wrong about a woman being beautiful, or having an interest in beauty, fashion and 'girly' things. On the contrary, these things, as well as the feminine arts, help a woman to REVEL in her femininity and are an asset.

However, the true measure of femininity isn't in the size of a girl's bust or in the length of her legs or eyelashes. The true measure of femininity is in a woman's attitude, mannerisms and behavior.

In addition, you can't judge femininity on the basis that a woman's a 'Martha Stewart' devotee or a prize-winning cook. The fact of the matter is dove; we can't all be beauty queens or prize-winning cooks.

Every woman is DIFFERENT, and may be a little unusual and quirky besides :-)

For example, a woman may be the most stunning and feminine looking women in a room (you see that she dresses femininely, paints her nails, has long hair and so on.) However, she's not thinking of modeling, marriage and/or motherhood as a full-time career.

Moreover, she may plan to marry and become a mother eventually, but wants very much to become a doctor first (whether or not that will effect her chances of marrying and starting a family before her biological clock ticks over is besides the point.)

The point is; when it comes to femininity and womanliness every woman is different - in abilities, personalities and interests. And every woman has been given a CHOICE in life - about what she wants to do and who she wants to be.

We're not here to judge, and by thinking about these ideas and by observing others, we can discover what being a woman means to us, personally.

What does being a woman mean to you dove? Moreover, who and what do you want to be in your life?

Some of us will want to be a stay at home wives and mothers (more power to you, if that applies to you!) However, some of us wouldn't feel fulfilled without doing some sort of work that's outside the home, and we shouldn't feel guilty about it.

And whatever your answers will be regarding your choices in life, it will be a different answer from the woman next to you (but it will fit YOU and that's what matters!)

Furthermore, some of our ideas about what makes a woman FEMININE can be false, or at least too simple.

Maybe we'll have to revise some of our thinking, and find new answers to the questions of what qualities a woman needs to have to be 'feminine.' We may also need to redefine what it means to be ideal and successful as a woman.

Nevertheless, there certainly are fundamental DIFFERENCES between males and females, we can't deny that. Not only biologically, but in attitude, mannerisms and behavior. And the natural differences in personality may be due to the differences in glands and brain structure.

In addition, it's BIOLOGY that has created the underlying difference between males and females. Naturally, the maleness or femaleness in humans will show itself in many physical traits. To mention a few;

1. The male is on average 20% heavier by the age of 20 than a woman.

2. Muscular strength is considerably stronger in males, and shows a consistent difference in favor of males at all ages. From early infancy, males exhibit greater 'muscular reactivity,' as illustrated by a stronger tendency toward restlessness and activity.

3. The male consumes more fuel (food) and produces more energy than the female (perhaps women are generally more passive and gentler than men because their bodies produce less energy.)

Men are usually bigger and stronger than women, so in most parts of the world they're given the heavier and more brawnier jobs to perform. Women bear the children, so in many societies their occupations have been those connected with child rearing and homemaking.

Furthermore, because women are physically weaker than men, they may need protection while they're carrying and rearing children.

Many of our notions regarding chivalry have come as a result of this natural difference in strength between men and women. And most feminine women are treated protectively by their men and have the NEED to have a man act as their protector.

When it comes to INTELLIGENCE and mental abilities, however, differences aren't found. But the fact remains that there are certain aptitudes which appear fairly consistently to reveal differences between the genders.

For example;

Boys often excel in mathematical and mechanical tests, while girls excel more often in verbal ability.

Boys are superior in speed and co-ordination of gross bodily movements, while girls excel in multi-tasking and manual dexterity.

However dove, when we consider abilities, we can't be sure how much difference, if any, is to be found between men and women.

We also can't know how much is due to biology, and how much to the environment. But the differences definitely do exist and are interesting to think about.

What are the differences between men and women when it comes to emotional behavior? You may have heard that women are more emotional than men. But is this actually true?

Is the man who controls a display of emotion LESS emotional than the woman who's learned that it's all right for her to express her feelings?

We know that men DO have strong emotions, and they do feel. They also express their emotions differently than women do, but in some situations express them quite freely.

Have you ever watched men around a fighting ring? Or at a World Series game? Men in our society are expected to show emotions in some situations, and to control them in other situations. The same holds true for women.

Women can cry in the movies. Men can throw temper tantrums when drivers don't give way.

Women can express fear. Men can express anger.

Society not only defines which emotions are appropriate for men and women, but even the ways in which the same emotion can be expressed.

A woman can go into raptures over a new pair of shoes; a man, over a new set of power tools.

In our society, women are allowed more freedom than men to express fear. So again, society expects different behavior of men and women, and boys and girls learn how to meet those expectations.

In addition, there are differences between the sexes in INTERESTS. If you question large groups of men and women about what kinds of activities they like most, and about their hobbies and occupations, you'll find clear-cut differences.

Men show a distinctive interest in outdoor and physically strenuous activities, in machinery and tools, in science and inventions, in adventure....

Women have a distinctive interest in aesthetic objects and occupations; in domestic affairs, and distinctively prefer more sedentary and indoor occupations, and occupations which involve being nurturing and sympathetic.

Thus the occupations of homemaker, beauty therapist, nurse, teacher and social worker are typically 'feminine' occupations in our society.

Furthermore, every society recognizes the fact that biology makes men and women different, but formulates its own notions of what work and behavior is appropriate for men and women.

In short, they determine what masculinity and femininity should be, and it's also true for our society.

Suppose you were a young lady growing up a hundred years ago. You were a member of a good family, were wealthy, attractive and sheltered. Under such circumstances, you'd likely faint whenever anything unpleasant happened. And if bad news came or you happened to see a pool of blood, you'd faint, just like that.

In addition, most people who lived a hundred years ago considered fainting, or "swooning" as they liked to call it, an inborn characteristic of ladies, and sure enough, ladies learned to swoon as they grew up.

In every society, we have different notions of whats natural and appropriate, and learn how to behave accordingly. Thankfully, in today's society, if you're a woman, no-one will expect you to faint at the sight of a little blood!

However, in my personal opinion we've gone too FAR with 'political correctness'' (a rather warped sense of appropriateness if you ask me,) and 'gender equality.'

Not only that but the media/entertainment industry has damaged our concept of femininity and womanliness as a whole.

Where's the feminine loveliness and elegance gone? The substance? The virtue? And where are the LADIES with their poised and graceful behavior?

Where's the art of femininity to be learned?

As we've grown up, many of us have had a LACK of models of femininity and womanliness to take after (that's why websites such as this one are helpful :-)) And although there's obviously a lack of feminine women in society, one woman's ideas of femininity may be quite different from another woman's.

For example, one woman may want a university degree and a career, and another woman will choose activities centered entirely around the home. But there's no right or wrong or 'normal' choice, and it's a woman's choice alone.

A woman can also be considered as "unfeminine" or "mannish" primarily because she lacked feminine role models growing up and identified more with the men in her life.

Is it fair to judge her harshly dove? And a woman may be judged for being too feminine and girly, when that's the way she is, naturally.

We're sometimes a little too scornful of the women who don't fit our fixed notions of what a woman ought to be like.

In addition, we're sometimes ignorant of the possible reasons why a woman is the way she is, how she may have been brought up, and what kinds of people were present to model herself after.

We sometimes forget too; the masculine girl or 'Tomboy' may make a very good adjustment in adulthood. And turn into a warm, friendly and attractive woman who's greatly admired by men because she speaks their "language.''

The label which fits one woman may not fit you at ALL. Yet there's nothing at all 'wrong' with you! Moreover, average doesn't necessarily mean 'normal,' and we simply can't expect ourselves, or anyone else for that matter, to be average!

As women, we should not only aim to be pretty and feminine, but extraordinary and a cut above the rest! Never be content with being mediocre, and it can be an IDEAL thing for a woman to have a few 'masculine' personality/character traits.

**If all women were ultra-feminine, and looked just like the beauty queens or celebrities, we'd all be the same. There's beauty in all our colors, and it's diversity that makes us fascinating :-)

Furthermore, without some BALANCE in our feminine natures, it would be pretty hard to understand men or to live with them!

When we say that men are more mechanically inclined than women, and women are more sympathetic than men, we're talking about averages. And if we drew graphs showing how men and women compare on mechanical ability or sympathetic behavior, we'd find exactly the same kind of picture, with great individual differences.

This also applies to the way we look, the way we express ourselves and so on.

Nevertheless, men and women have become too much alike doll! You only have to look at college girls these days; they walk, talk and laugh/joke like MEN, not like women (and they 'swear like sailors!')

Furthermore, men prefer FEMININE women, they always have and they always will. And a man wants to be married to a woman, not to a Mack truck!

Thankfully, there are many books that encourage ideal femininity and womanliness, and that teach the art of femininity. Some titles are;

'The Power of Being a Woman: Embracing the Triumph of the Feminine Spirit.'

'What Southern Women Know (That Every Woman Should): Timeless Secrets to Get Everything you Want in Love, Life, and Work.'

'Lady in Waiting.'

'A Touch of Grace: How to be a Princess the Grace Kelly Way.'

'Fascinating Womanhood.'

'A Guide to Elegance: For Every Woman Who Wants to Be Well and Properly Dressed on All Occasions.'

'The Surrendered Single.'

'The Surrendered Wife.'

'The Diva Principle.'

''Passion And Purity'.

Anyway cupcake, I do hope you enjoyed my article; The Art of Femininity and The Truth About Being Feminine.

Much Love,
Melina xxx