Showing posts with label Ideal Female Beauty. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Ideal Female Beauty. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

How to Be An Ideal, Feminine and Lovely Woman

Do you want to be feminine and lovely, in personality, looks and behavior? In other words do you want to be an IDEAL woman, dove? Do I hear a "YES?" Good!

Not every woman is ideal, however, I believe that the essence to be such a woman, and to possess the qualities of an ideal woman is in every woman.


A woman's desire to be such a woman isn't really about personal vanity. It's an aspect of her SELF-RESPECT. A demand, from the deepest parts of her nature that she be known to the world in her best light. And an instinct to put her 'best foot forward' in the contest of living.

Ideal, feminine and lovely women grace any gathering. They can ignore conventions and cut a path of their own to social distinction. Lovely debutantes are more easily launched. More orchids and parties and conquests come their way.

Just about every young girl dreams of herself as becoming lovely, alluring, fateful. She may see in a much-loved singer or actress the embodiment of her OWN dreams of being the heroine of the drama. Moreover, audiences have greater sympathy for roles enacted by ideal, feminine and lovely women.

In addition, an 'ideal' woman finds her way easier from the beginning. Every rung of her ladder to success is won with less labor, not only because she's good to look at, but she's IDEAL in her personality and behavior.

If she's in the public eye, she has continuous engagements. If she's a model, she often gets the job. If she's an actress, the season's most coveted parts are frequently offered her....

Even in BUSINESS a woman should be ideal, feminine and lovely. The fact remains, that even in the world of business, a woman's beauty and femininity is an asset.


Managers find such women to be a good investment - not only because they do the job well, and are professional, but because they're classy, polished and lovely! And they'll seek their cooperation to assure their own success.

In the world of business, 'dowdy' and less than ideal girls are somewhat depressing, and they express failure, not success. And while a CEO of a company may declare that he'll never hire a pretty girl again, one suspects him of not telling the whole truth.

Furthermore, most business men admit having a preference for feminine and attractive women in the work place, and for purely business reasons (apparently, customers and clients feel similarly, as well.)

What greater tribute can a mother have than her children thinking that she's womanly and lovely? Inside and out. And surely children will feel closer to a 'young and lovely' mother, than to a 'faded and weary' mother?

The generations seem to grow closer if mothers keep themselves youthful. With the advances in self-beautification/
improvement, this is a much easier feat than it used to be.

In addition, youth is a state of mind, An exciting challenge, even! You can wake up one morning, and know that you're thirty, or even that you're forty plus. But you won't feel it unless you DRAMATIZE it.


I heard a story about a woman glancing at her calendar one day and suddenly realizing the "awful truth," it was her birthday, and she was FORTY! She dissolved in tears and felt that she couldn't face it.

When her husband came in, to dress for a celebratory birthday lunch, she told him; "I'm not going, I just can't!" To his surprised; "What's the matter with you?" she tearfully replied; "Today I'm forty!" 


"Huh," her rather unsympathetic husband responded. "You've been forty for the last five years, according to your family Bible!"

So, you see, dove, forty is a state of MIND. Even so, today is the time to take stock of your health, your beauty, and your femininity - as well as your mental agility, your interest in life, love and the pursuit of happiness!

What else can you do to retain your youth and loveliness?

Look after your health (don't wait for an emergency to occur before you take action.) Take care of your TEMPLE.

Exercise. LOSE any excess weight (curves are ideal, but excess layers and rolls of fat aren't ideal, and aren't what curves are about.)

Avoid sedatives and the excess drinking of alcohol. Trendy bars and cocktail rooms are just about everywhere, and crowded with over-dressed, and often, over-fed females - of all ages. 


Many women in their twenties drop in at their local bar, or get the "girls" together for wine and cocktails - with more drinking than socializing. They think they need the 'lift' of a drink to enjoy a night out. However, this 'lift' is only temporary, and when it wears off, they 'need' another drink.

The effect of alcohol on a woman thirty and above is dismaying. She not only gets 'blowzy,' noisy and  unladylike. She puts on weight, loses her looks, and her self-respect.


High value men don't abide such females.

This also isn't a preachment against the drinking of alcohol, dove; you needn't be a teetotaler, wear a white ribbon or sign a pledge. But don't turn to alcohol to get you over the rough spots, or see it as the only way to have a good time.


How unimaginative. Furthermore, if you're seeking REAL love, romance and affection, you won't find any of them in a bar. They just don't serve any of those ingredients there!

Sedatives, over time, make you nervous, so you'll take another pill to quiet you. There's a real danger in popping sedative pills too, as they give you no real rest, or surcease from your depression. 

You always have to wake up and face your problems, as well - unless, in a stupor you take too many, and needless tragedy! Out goes another woman who took an overdose of pills!

Get your colors done. You're either a 'Spring,' a 'Summer,' an 'Autumn' or a 'Winter.' Your skin tone is the most important factor in determining your colors.

Get a wardrobe analysis done by an professional image consultant (or learn how to do it yourself,) and update your wardrobe to include more feminine and becoming outfits.

When you're going on a date, or spending some quality 'alone' time with your man, put on your BEST garment.

Wear makeup every day. Even if it's minimal. Older women who wear makeup (foundation, concealer and/or powder,) look years younger than the women who don't. This is because wearing makeup on your face protects your skin from the elements.

Do weekly manicures, pedicures and hair conditioning treatments.


Grow your hair long, or at least to a length that makes you the most womanly and becoming. 

If you're an older woman, embrace your grey hair. 'Silverette Sirens' are exclusive, and the silver tones in a woman's hair can be particularly lovely! Often there's no loss of beauty in the hair, even after it's turned gray, if the hair's itself is magnificently healthy and luxurious. 

When nature turns your hair to silver, you become one of that exclusive group; the 'Silverettes.' And don't ever say of yourself; "I'm a gray-haired woman." Say proudly; "I'm a Silverette!" 

See the difference, cupcake?

Get a little 'nip and tuck' done if you think that will help you to look and feel better.

Take care of your teeth. Use whitening strips to whiten your teeth if they're stained. If your teeth are really bad, consider getting porcelain veneers.

Get enough Vitamin D. Aim for at least ten minutes of sunlight on the back of your hands each day.


If you're self-conscious, or a 'Tomboy' or introverted, don't allow yourself to say; "That's ME. That's my disposition. I can't help it." You CAN help it. To say that you can't is to admit that your own mental processes are beyond your control. 

To accept the domination of any negative thought or emotion is to condemn yourself to always being a nobody.

I think that there's not a woman alive who doesn't want to be an ideal, feminine and lovely woman - if she tells the TRUTH about it, that is! However, some women won't admit this, even to themselves.

Moreover, many women merely pretend to scoff at the idea of being pretty and feminine, and will tell you it's unnecessary and "shallow." But life has often been disappointing to these women, and they're putting on a front.

Furthermore, dove, many significantly overweight and/or masculine types of women will cast aside the desire to be 'ideal,' as if beauty and slimness never mattered to them. But they KNOW (even though they may adamantly deny it,) that all they have would be worth twice as much if they had ideal beauty and femininity.

When they look in the mirror, with no one around to see them unmasked, they wish they were beautiful too. They do, they do, they do. And don't believe a woman who tells you otherwise!

Once they get married, some women start to "let themselves go," and make no effort to create an atmosphere of gracious femininity and charm. If only they would make an effort to spruce themselves up a bit, and don a nice outfit when hubby is due home (looking as attractive as possible.) The husband would be pleased. 


He may ask; "What's all this?" But he'll like it.

Remember, lovely, when your husband married you he evidently found you attractive. If you've been letting him down the last few months or years, NOW is the the time to make amends.

Things happen to attractive women. Things come to attractive women. And romance lives with the feminine and lovely and ideal.  

Furthermore, high value men seek ideal female beauty. They also see in femininity an inspiration and the ideal. If you have, or cultivate such beauty, you'll have homage (the tribute may take different forms, but it's still tribute.)

Just as women hide in their innermost hearts their reasons for wanting beauty, so do men have reasons (as deeply rooted and buried,) for seeking beauty. A man's devotion to beauty is an expression of his idealism. 


His admiration of beauty, as well as to femininity, is his tribute to this thing which he may not be able to define, but which stirs him in unknown depths. And men who know nothing of art or aesthetics still find some bewildering satisfaction in looking at a feminine and lovely woman (an ideal woman.)

In all the history of nations, no matter how material or 'modern' the age, or how ugly the cruelty of its customs, men have turned (for inspiration of the soul) to BEAUTY.

If you're pretty and feminine and 'ideal,' men will seek you, surround you and serve you. Love will come to you - as well as a nice home, beautiful children.... Moreover, ideal women live more fully, intensely, superbly.

There, I've dared to say it! Furthermore, these are the reasons that YOU want to be beautiful, dove. Why bother to evade and conceal this truth? It's the truth, and it's always been so.

The Queen of Sheba, Scheherazade, Helen of Troy, Cleopatra, Madame Recamier, Madame de Pompadour.... these women epitomized life in their respective eras. People and events gathered around them. They're also in history because their very beauty made history. 


Things happened to them too, that can't be forgotten, because they were extraordinary women of excellence - and LOVELY.

The ideal woman of today casts a similar golden glow over her surroundings. Her radiant beauty may make hers a charmed life as well, and enable her to rise from less-than-ideal surroundings.

While beauty means so much to men, and the world, it's a woman's greatest privilege and duty to be beautiful
The Art of Beautification for Seductresses. A beautiful woman is a delight to every one who knows her. She dispenses something that people NEED. 

And it's a part of every woman's mission to supply that need!

The keynote of modern beauty is naturalness. By this, I'm not referring to a face that's bare of makeup, or to hair that's never been colored. I'm referring to the most exquisite grooming and a rigid standard of cleanliness. 


Moreover, all our efforts to be beautiful are based on an understanding of the processes of nature.

In seeking the beauty that's in you, who knows what lovely proportions your figure will take on when you lose those extra pounds? Or when it's developed as the Greeks developed their models for Aphrodite and Diana?

Who knows what velvety bloom your skin may have when it's perfectly healthy? Who knows what radiance your personality may possess when you release its powers?

Try by every means to accomplish it. However, the most potent means is already in your hands, and in the wonderful recuperative and REGENERATIVE powers of your own body.

All your muscles grow and change with the months, and you can TRANSFORM them into the mold of ideal female beauty. 


Your skin cells die and are replaced every day. You can take advantage of that change to improve the texture and tint of your complexion.

Furthermore, your mind is a stream of impressions, thoughts and reactions, and you can divert that stream to record only beautiful and positive thoughts in the lines of your face - and in the rhythm of your vibrations.

You CAN be beautiful, dove. You can be an ideal, feminine and lovely woman. Nature meant that you should be!


You should be womanly, radiant, desirable. If you're not, it's only because through ignorance, or past hurts, that you're thwarting all the powers which should flow from the infinite through you.

You have only to go back to the source, and put all your physical, mental and spiritual forces in tune with nature. And while you're doing that, anoint yourself (put on some lovely perfume, while anointing yourself with the Holy Spirit.)

And you'll be beautiful again.


Anyhow cupcake, I do hop you enjoyed my post; 'How to Be An Ideal, Feminine and Lovely woman!'

Much love,
Melina xxx

Books and Courses for Seductive Women

Feminissima - School of Feminine Arts

Give Up Your day Job With My Work From Home, Money-Making Blueprints (Can Be Used Anywhere in the World)

Work From Home Moms & Girls


The Sedona Method


A secret of a modern seductress to achieve any goal she desires, and become a woman of
excellence. The Sedona Method isn't a form of therapy or programming. Instead, it works to help you to dramatically change and improve yourself and your LIFE. I highly recommend this method!



My Other Femininity Blog


The Art of Being Feminine

Thursday, July 28, 2011

How to Get Beautiful Hands


Hi dove! I'm sure you'll agree with me that we put our hands through a LOT of activity each day. Even so, with a little extra care we can have beautiful hands, and keep them pretty, feminine and lovely! 


Our hands SPEAK, even when we don't. Our hands tell tales about our lives, our habits, our personalities, our work, our play.... 

Our hands are the barometers of our emotions and take more punishment than our faces. They're often NEGLECTED. And hands grow old, even when their owners, seemingly don't.
 

Often we'll do something about our faces, but we forget that our hands are in evidence every single minute, People also notice our hands just as quickly and appraisingly as they do our faces. 

It's strange how many women fail to realize this!

You may have the hand of fashion, elegance and sophistication; well-manicured nails tipped in gleaming polish. Or you may have hands which bespeak capability in work, crafts etc. Whatever is the case, do use your hands to EXPRESS yourself (but keep them beautifully groomed.) 

**Practice pretty and feminine gestures. Pick up a vase or a flower as if you enjoyed handling it. Don't GRAB. Learn to use your hands femininely and gracefully.

Here's a 4-point program to follow if you want to have beautiful feminine hands.

How to Have Beautiful Hands - Protect

Before engaging in housework, gardening, or any other activity that's hard on the hands, protect your hands by COVERING them up. 


Always wear rubber gloves when washing dishes, laundering, scrubbing floors etc (be sure to wash your rubber gloves inside after using them.) Apply cornstarch powder powder to your hands before donning rubber gloves.

Apply a rich hand cream or lotion before donning cotton gloves for activities such as polishing and gardening.While protecting the skin, gloves will serve to prevent broken nails. 


In the summer and winter months, if the skin on your hands is thin and sensitive, wear gloves whenever you head outdoors. If you're not careful, the hot sun/harsh wind will dry out the natural oils and moisture excreted by the skin, and will cause the skin on your hands to become dry and coarse.  

When laundering by hand, to protect your hands, use only mild soap flakes. Be sure to rinse your hands thoroughly when you're done with the washing, and follow with a generous application of hand cream or lotion.

After washing your hands, ALWAYS apply a hand cream or lotion. When applying, stroke on the preparation gently. Hold your hands up and stroke downward, just as if you were fitting a pair of gloves.


Apply hand cream or lotion to your hands before working. This will give your hands a beauty treatment while you work. 

**Tip; a super cute and feminine look in summertime is to wear a pair of short, white lacy gloves (fingerless.) 
Team the gloves with a pair of skinny jeans, a white summery top, and a white lacy umbrella to protect the rest of you from the sun!



Gloves add to your POISE. They give you an air of simple elegance and femininity. They should be selected to harmonize with whatever you're wearing, and be functional as well as fashionable.


To prevent your hands from chapping, hand cream or lotion should be applied before and after exposure to the sun's rays.

How to Have Beautiful Hands - Cleanse

Dirty nails, embedded grime or ugly stains definitely isn't a feminine and seductive look, and will ruin the appearance of the shapeliest hand. Keep the hands immaculately clean, ALWAYS.

Never tire of removing grime, ink and other stains from your fingernails, dove! And wash your hands as often as necessary in warm soapy water. 

  

THE HAND AND NAIL CLEANSE AND SOAK
 

**Whenever you're cleansing and soaking your hands and nails, if you live in an area where the water is particularly hard, add a softener such as tincture of benzoin or boracic acid to the water.  

To thoroughly cleanse your hands and nails, use a vegetable oil based soap, or a gentle hand wash, and work up a rich lather. Make each hand washing session a beauty treatment. 

Massage the hands thoroughly in the lather. Then, follow with using a wet pumice stone for the removal of callouses on the hands (if necessary.) 

Scrub the hands - from the wrists to the fingertips - with a nail brush, or with a suitable hand/foot scrub, concentrating on the knuckles and nails.

A piece of fresh lemon can be used for the removal of stains. Stubborn stains can also be removed from your hands with a cotton-tipped orange stick - or a Q-tip dipped in cuticle remover.

Finish up the treatment with a repeated rinsing and an application of hand cream or lotion. 


**If your hands are badly discolored/stained, whiten them with one of the many excellent bleaching creams on the market. Rub the bleaching cream well into your hands before going to bed at night. Moreover, cover your hands with loose cotton gloves (by morning your hands should be shades lighter.)
 

Always dry your hands well. There are few oil glands in the skin of the hands, and it will quickly wrinkle and coarsen if left damp following immersion in water. Improper drying of the hands promotes dryness, as well as redness.

After the excess moisture has been removed from your hands, each finger should be dried thoroughly. But never attempt to dry your hands by waving them in the air, or giving them a quick, careless wipe with the towel.

After each hand washing, and before the application of hand cream or lotion, push back the damp cuticles at the base of the nails, using either a towel or an orange stick.

By the way, doll, always have an orange stick and a bottle of hand lotion or cream near the kitchen sink and in the bathroom.

How to Have Beautiful Hands - Beautify

At least once a week, give your hands an overnight beautification treatment. Massage your hands well with a rich lubricating cream, or a concoction that contains a vegetable/ or nut based carrier oil (such as coconut, almond or olive oil) with essential oils added. Then, slip on a pair of loose fitting, soft cotton gloves.

Massage is one of the most effective ways to improve pudgy hands.
If the knuckles on your hands are enlarged, massage them at night - in the same way as you'd fit gloves to the hands.

Another corrective for hands is hand exercises - which relax the muscles, stimulate the circulation, and promotes suppleness. Even busy hands get stiff unless regularly exercised!

Blemishes and freckles on the hands can usually be corrected through the use of lemon juice, bleaching cream or a alpha hydroxy acid (AHA) hand lotion. You can also use cut cucumber rinds.


Brown spots sometimes respond to massage, as well as do bleaching creams. 

Warts on the hands should be removed by a dermatologist - or by applying apple cider vinegar to the wart each night, and then covering with a bandaid.

Due to improper functioning of the glands under the skin, large brown spots, sometimes called 'age spots' or 'liver spots' can be be treated with apple cider vinegar. 


They can be concealed with an application of foundation make-up, which incidentally, can be quite flattering to the hands.
 
**Beauty tip; by placing just a tiny bit of rouge on each fingertip, you can give your fingers a slender, tapering appearance. 


You can get more of my feminine and seductive beauty tips here; The Art of Beautification for Seductresses
 
It's up to you whether or not you use colored nail polish. I do. It's fun to wear, it's protective, and the color makes the skin look prettier by contrast. It also puts you in the class of the well-groomed, interested-in-their-appearance women.

COLD and/or clammy hands (often due to poor circulation) will sometimes improve with persistent massage. However, more  often than not this is a problem that calls for a health and exercise program.

Perspiring palms can be treated with a liquid deodorant which will check perspiration. If the problem is serious, Botox injections may help.

How to Have Beautiful Hands - Decorate

Nothing looks more pretty and feminine than a hand that's beautifully decorated with jewelry  - such as bracelets and rings - or even with gloves or Mehndi. 



Mehndi is the application of henna on the hands (typically applied to Indian brides before their weddings,) or as a temporary form of skin decoration or tattoo. I personally think that mehndi looks beautiful :-)

Furthermore, I like the look of 'slave bracelets.' The following picture depicts such a bracelet. A very feminine and seductive look, don't you think?

A SLAVE BRACELET

As for standard jewelry for the hands, there are some rules to follow in having beautiful hands.... 

A SMALL delicate hand should never be burdened with heavy or 'chunky' looking costume jewelry. Such jewelry will overwhelm the appearance of your hand, and detract from its beauty!

Furthermore, if you have small hands, don't wear pointed nails. However, DO wear sparkly rings, set in small, feminine designs. Pretty, tinkly bracelets are also for you, but keep away from heavy rings and wide bracelets.

A large, 'capable' looking hand can be adorned with DAINTY little rings with oval stones. An oval shape will slenderize. Moreover, oval shaped nails, beautifully manicured, set off this type of hand.

SHORT, stubby fingers always look best when adorned with a little finger ring.

SQUARE shaped hands look best with a square shaped ring on the second or third fingers. 


Only the SLENDER hand (with long tapering fingers and well kept nails,) should carry a ring on the forefinger.

The long, slender hand, with well manicured nails, can be the background for beautiful jewelry - rings that sparkle, that important diamond, or the more dramatic cuff bracelet.

FLOWER rings often make a woman's hand look more feminine and lovely.


Wear an attractive watch. A watch bracelet looks very nice on a woman, is very 'timely' and very flattering.

Remember, dove, too much jewelry - of any kind (even diamonds) is in BAD taste. 


Long sleeves are especially becoming to the less-than-perfect hands. Have your sleeves zipped at the wrists for a perfect fit and finish. 

**Unless your wrists and arms are lovely, camouflage and dress them becomingly. 

The three-quarter sleeve, which ends just below the elbows, is good on slender arms, and if coordinated with cuff bracelets, you have camouflage, style and beauty.

Anyhow, cupcake, I do hope you enjoyed my article; 'How to Have Beautiful Hands!'

Much love,
Melina xxx

Ps; after going to great trouble to have your hands and nails in perfect order, you can SPOIL the whole effect by ungraceful hand mannerisms. Pay attention to how you use your hands, dove! 

Moreover, the 'elegant raised pinky' mannerism isn't used very often these days, and can be irritating if it's not something you naturally do. 

Books and Courses for Seductive Women

Feminissima - School of Feminine Arts

Give Up Your day Job With My Work From Home, Money-Making Blueprints (Can Be Used Anywhere in the World)

Work From Home Moms & Girls


The Sedona Method


A secret of a modern seductress to achieve any goal she desires, and become a woman of
excellence. The Sedona Method isn't a form of therapy or programming. Instead, it works to help you to dramatically change and improve yourself and your LIFE. I highly recommend this method!



My Other Femininity Blog


The Art of Being Feminine


Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Tips for Feminine Poise, Grace and Loveliness

Every woman inevitably grows OLDER dove, however many women maintain their feminine poise and grace - as well as their loveliness - even in their golden years.

Your decisions and actions today, will determine if you end up growing old gracefully and serenely - or end up stiff, shrewish and shriveled!

Of course, ‘luck’ and destiny may play a role in determining your future, and in how poised, graceful and lovely you’ll be when you’ve finally grown old. However, the major factor are the GOALS you’ve set for yourself today. And your determination to accomplish what you’ve set out to become.

Every woman should ask herself;

What kind of woman do I want to be?

What do I want most to happen in my life?


Besides a fulfilling job or career, most of us want love and marriage, raising our own family, and being mistress of our very own home. Furthermore, most of us want to attract and keep the attention of a man. And if we want to attract his attention, we need to poised, graceful and LOVELY!

We should also be SEXY. When it comes to women, there's the ‘sexual sexy’ and the ‘classy sexy,’ and the latter type of sexiness is the most seductive and desirable to men - in particular, to the better types of men.


You don’t have to look prim or ordinary when you’re exuding sexuality either, but you should never look CHEAP (a poised and graceful woman is never cheap!)

A woman's sexiness should be a SUBTLE invitation with unreachable undertones, a charming mystery, so even though a man may be mesmerized, he’ll want to pursue her and get to know her better, as a person.


A woman who’s ‘classy sexy’ is invariably;

Subtle and indirect.

Respectful and modest.

Poised and graceful.

Enticing and enchanting!

And not overtly in the physical way, but as a whole person.

The first step in attaining feminine poise, grace and loveliness, (even in your twilight years,) is to nourish your skin with a diet that contains plenty of 'skin foods.'


The proteins found in the human body, and specifically in the human skin, are collagen and elastin. They’re also the components that keep the skin firm and flexible, so a deficiency in any of these proteins will eventually result in aging, sagging skin.

In addition dove, if you want to keep your skin supple, smooth and healthy, you should apply creams and lotions to it daily. Pure coconut, almond oil or olive oil is WONDERFUL for the skin. And Sophia Loren has always used olive oil as a moisturizer, and has amazing skin for her age.


Here's an excellent resource to become a beautiful and attractive woman; The Art of Beautification for Seductresses

A woman should look at feminine beauty in a HOLISTIC way, and combine a healthy diet, exercise and a good skin regimen in maintaining her beauty. Furthermore, meditation and an inner serenity will help a woman be poised, graceful and lovely - internally and externally.

Being VISUAL, men initially look at a woman's physical aspects. Although, not all men are alike in this regard, each man generally has his own physical 'type,' and likes something in particular, regarding the beauty of women....

In addition, each man is different when it comes to the type of woman he's attracted to, and what he personally considers to be lovely.


Some examples of men's physical types are;

'Fiery' redheads.

The 'librarian girl in glasses,' or the 'thinking man's woman'- who's smart, subtle and sophisticated.

Exotic looking women - the 'Sades,' the 'Imans' and the 'Kimora Lee Simmons' of this world - with their amazing cheekbones and gorgeous chocolate/caramel skin.

Big breasted women - such as Salma Hayek, Nigella Lawson and
Jennifer Love Hewitt.

Women with long beautiful legs - such as Cameron Diaz, Elle Macpherson and Maria Sharapova.

A woman with dainty ankles and feet - such as Eva Longoria, Chreryl Cole and Kourtney Kardashian.

Women with rounded derrieres - such as Jennifer Lopez, Kim Kardashian and Beyonce Knowles.

A woman with a pair of large, soulful eyes - such as Audrey Tautou, Christina Ricci and the late Audrey Hepburn.

Basically, every man is attracted to a DIFFERENT type of woman. Therefore, we shouldn't despair over not fitting the bill, and we'll surely find SOMEONE who'll appreciate and recognize us for OUR own beauty - not the face and/or figure of something else.


Nevertheless, every woman should strive to make herself PRETTY, feminine and lovely, as outward beauty is always noticed first by a man.

Admittedly, there are men who are quirky in their tastes regarding the female form, some wanting excessively overweight girls. However, the standard for female beauty is SLIM (yet curvy,) and not fat. Moreover, healthy women are generally slim, and it's surmised, have healthier genes and babies.

The right sized body - for your particular bone structure - is a sure way to get, and stay, HEALTHY. A healthy body is attractive when you're feeding it with the right amount of nutrients - nourishing your skin, your eyes, your hair, and helping you to achieve the ideal stance and poise.

We gain our FIRST impressions of people from the way they sit, stand and walk - as well as from their gestures and facial expressions. First impressions are so important for a woman dove, because negative first impressions can have a disconcerting habit of sticking.

To become poised, graceful and lovely as women, we need to be acquainted with ourselves, and have some IDEA of the kind of impressions we’re giving to others. And there’s only one way in which we can find out, friends.

However, it could be useless asking your friends what kind of impressions you give to them, and possibly to others, as they probably wouldn’t be comfortable in telling you the truth. Moreover, so few women are capable of bearing the whole truth about themselves!

Therefore, our only hope for improvement lies in a MIRROR - and an open mind :-)

Some feminine poise and grace exercises;

Place a mirror (a long one if possible,) directly across the room, opposite the door.

Put a chair within the reflection (but not directly between the mirror and the door.)

Use your imagination (to surmise how others see you, ) and imagine you’re now welcoming a friend, someone you’re very fond of and who you haven’t seen for some time. Picture that she's standing near the mirror, so as you cross the room to welcome her, you’re directly reflected in it.

Go open the door (your hands may be extended in a cordial welcome, your face glowing with happiness and surprise,) and you greet your friend. Invite her to be seated, and seat yourself in the chair you’ve previously placed there.

Now, keep your eyes on the mirror while you imagining and acting out these things, and carefully watch four points;

1. Your walk.
2. Your arm gestures.
3. The expression of your face.
4. The way you sit.

**Before you can accurately judge the result of your trial practice, you must set a standard from which to judge. Begin with the WALK, and for feminine poise and grace, it's vitally important to carry your weight on the balls of your feet.

If this is done properly, the heel and toe of the extended foot will strike the ground at the same instant, not (as is almost invariably the case with 'unfinished' women,) heel first.

When walking as a poised and graceful woman, the leg should swing free from the hips, and as the extended foot touches the ground, the heel of the other foot should rise, throwing the weight forward onto the toe (preparatory to carrying it forward for the next step.)

Furthermore dove, both of your heels should never be on the ground at the SAME time, even for a fraction of a second.


The extended toe should always be pointed downward. And if your weight is properly placed, your chest will be carried well forward - so that if you should walk up to a wall - your chest would strike it first.

*Tip; another secret for feminine poise and grace when walking, is to keep the chest up and the toes DOWN.

In addition, there's a correct method of SITTING. The main thing here is to avoid the ungainly 'doubling up' movement that you see some women do, before being able to sit down.


This is quite needless, as well as ungraceful. Furthermore, the back, from the hips to the head, should always remain strait and erect.

If you happen to find yourself ‘addicted’ to an unbecoming sitting habit, start practicing daily the poised and graceful way of sitting. Here's the exercise;

Stand in front of your chair, and let the back of the right leg lightly touch the frame, keeping your weight well on the ball of the right foot (even here it’s important that your weight is correctly placed :-))

Place the toe of the left foot under the chair, and as you sit down, your weight should gradually be transferred from the right foot to the left.

**In sitting down, there shouldn't be the slightest bend of the body forward, and the left foot must support your weight strongly enough in order that you don’t just FLOP into the chair. instead, gracefully sink into position.

Once you experience the comfort of perfect poise and grace - in sitting, standing and walking - you’ll never allow yourself to slide back into those old ungraceful ways!

As for a welcoming gesture, this can be an individual thing. However, the gesture should be one of welcome, so that the whole movement of the body is forward.


Your arms will be slightly flexed at the elbows, your palms will be more or less upward, slightly facing each other, and about the width of the body apart.

If your welcoming gesture is stiff and awkward, or lacking in warmth and feeling, the following exercises will help to soften your elbows, loosen your wrists, and lend to every movement the CHARM that comes only from a a sense of freedom and spontaneity.

A good exercise to prepare for welcoming people in a poised and graceful manner, is to place the backs of your hands together, fingers pointed downward, in front of and close to your body (approximately at waist level.)

Bring your hands straight up in front of you - until they’re straight above your head as far as they'll go without stiffening the elbows.

Allow your hands to gradually come apart so that at the highest point, only the tips of the fingers are touching.

Make sure that you don’t bend backward from the shoulders dove, as you raise your hands. Instead, your chest should come forward ever so slightly. Furthermore, you should draw your arms apart, out at the sides, and then turn your hands over so that your palms face downward.

Let your arms sink down to your sides, returning to the original position. With your hands back to back, in front of the waist-line.

This movement will have made a complete circle, and may be repeated a number of times in succession to give you a better control of your arm movements. At no time in cultivating feminine poise and grace should your elbows be stiff. See too, that they’re always slightly flexed.

The next exercise is to extend your arms in front of your body, with your hands hanging limply from the wrists, and about a foot away from each other.

Raise your arms, allowing the wrists lead, and keep the chest well forward - until they’re straight above the head. Then, allow your hands, still limp, to fall back, so that your palms face upward, and bring your arms down in front, to their original position.

In this movement, don’t let your elbows spread apart as you bring your arms down. Keep them well toward each other, otherwise the exercise will be of no value. Moreover, make certain that your chest comes forward and that your hands are limp.

I’ve found this tendency of women bending backward quite common, and the effects negative enough to warrant some special attention.

In addition, nature won’t indefinitely provide muscular strength when it’s not properly utilized. These habits actually force an unnatural strain on one set of muscles - to the exclusion of the muscles that need to be properly used.

If you want to be a poised and graceful woman, and don't want to adopt the incorrect posture, test how your muscles operate. The next time you’re doing your hair, notice the strain on your abdominal muscles, and in the small of your back. Then try standing in the correct manner - with your chest well forward, and your back and head erect.

After doing these exercises, you’ll immediately feel a sense of feminine poise, strength and repose, free from any sort of strain. That should convince you, far more than I could do, of the discomfort you’ve perhaps been unconsciously causing yourself.

I also want to bring up the subject of facial expressions. What was your verdict in this respect when you were doing the mirror exercise? Did you discover yourself to have an indifferent or unresponsive facial expression?

If so lovely, there’s one way you can redeem yourself from the dull and uninteresting mass of women whose eyes and faces seem to be SHUTTERS, rather than beautiful windows of the soul. That is, write down a list of emotions that you’d like to portray - such as serenity, hope, joy, contentment and surprise.

This exercise will also help your imagination to write a little 'story' involving such feelings - and arrange them on your list in a sequence - followed with your story ;-)


Facial Expression Exercise;

Stand in front of your mirror and try to let your face tell a story (think how much an actress needs to portray with her facial expressions!) Moreover, don't get discouraged if you find that at first, the emotions and expressions of serenity, hope, joy, surprise and contentment seem one and the same.

Just keep persisting with this exercise, and in time you’ll find that the thought of any emotion will call up a corresponding and pleasing expression in your EYES.


Gradually, your face too will become a sensitive and expressive reflection of your thoughts and emotions. And will lend to your voice and conversation a vitality and charm that’s the very essence of a feminine, seductive and LOVELY woman’s personality.

One word of warning however; in cultivating feminine poise and grace, don’t try to cultivate a SET expression to suggest any particular emotion. It's essential to attempt to feel an emotion, and then wait for it to flow into your face. And each time, as you feel your face warming and changing to the expression of the emotion, you can pour more and more feeling into it.

Successfully done, each thought that comes to you will fill your whole face and countenance with a RADIANT and lovely responsiveness. Giving you a feminine charm and magnetism that’s much more preferred than the ‘doll-like’ prettiness of perfect but empty facial features.

Poise and grace even extends to the way that we react towards men, and women are supposed to be chased and pursued by men, as nature intended :-)

Look at the birds and the bees cupcake, and see how they perform their courtship rituals! A male may preen himself for the female, go out of his way to please her, offer her the best nest, and show how well he can provide for a brood.

The female then gets to pick the showiest and the most ABLE male. And that's the way that nature intended the species to be. Nature prevails in love too. Although, the competition is as stiff with the males as is it with the females.

Furthermore, in the realm of courtship and dating, every woman should be self-composed, a little reserved and POISED - not going against nature and doing the chasing! Moreover, feminine and lovely women are nice.

In cultivating feminine poise, grace and loveliness, why not start spending a bit more time on yourself cupcake? You could;

Find a meditation or dance class, such as ballet or Oriental dance, that specializes in developing poise and grace.

Create more order and harmony in your environment - let all your things have their places - and let each part of your business have its time.

Don't be disturbed by, or 'sweat' the small stuff - accidents and little mishaps are common and unavoidable.

Do everything in moderation and avoid extremes.

Exercise temperance, controlling your behavior so that it's always reasonable. Have that coolness and clearness of head that's so necessary for becoming a poised and graceful woman.

Practice silence and dignity - especially avoid prattling and punning when it's unacceptable to the company.

Buy some elegant clothes and accessories - that bring out the best in you.

Becoming poised and graceful also UPLIFTS you in men's eyes. Pretty soon, you'll notice how the quality men are flocking to you. And all it will take is a coy smile from you, and they'll be putty in your hands!

Much love,
Melina xxx

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