Saturday, July 30, 2011

How to Be Fascinating

 How to Be Fascinating - Enrich Your Experience

To enrich your experience, and your mental and spiritual outlook, make an effort to meet people, to make friends, to DO things with people. Join clubs; they bring you in touch with many people. 

Join classes to study things with others. Furthermore, learn to do many of the things that others are doing, so that you'll not be left out.

Learn to dance, or to play tennis.... or any other sport which will bring you into companionship with people - under pleasant and healthy conditions. 

PLAY is also as necessary to a woman as food and sleep is, dove. Moreover, play with people, it's stimulating and refreshing!

How to Be Fascinating - Have Many Interests

The richest and most fascinating people are those who have MANY interests. You may be fascinated by jazz music. You may love the theater. You may like to amuse yourself by cooking exotic recipes, and you'll search for the ingredients at the markets, in the foreign quarters of your city.

Furthermore, do things outside the NORMAL routine of your life. Get some new hobbies. Collect things; flowers, coins, stamps, antiques.... anything. Broaden your interests, and you'll become more and more interesting :-)

Broaden your interests by learning something about everything. It's a mistake, though, to be pedantic about your knowledge of things. Nobody is more tiresome than the intellectual prig!

Having MANY interests and passions is the fascination of the Advanced Femmes, and it's a fascination which every woman can cultivate, to a certain degree.

How to Be Fascinating - Expand Your Intellect

You can begin to expand your intellect by reading the daily paper every morning. REALLY read it, doll, including the editorials and reviews!

Most women are content merely to skip nimbly through the headlines, and more often than not, go strait to the celebrity pages.

Read books in every field. Read about travel and religion and philosophy. Read about psychology and cooking and natural therapies. Read about gardening and history and art.

Furthermore, the lives of famous people, biographies and autobiographies, are enchanting things to begin on.

How to Be Fascinating - Take A
Lively Interest In Others

To become fascinating, you want to awaken your mind, as well as it fill it with good things, in order to enliven your conversations. But remember too, lovely, it takes two to make a conversation. And half of a woman's charm is to be a good listener.

LET other people talk. They'll love you for it. And don't interrupt!

Don't let yourself get bored, however. In doing this, your own widening interests will help you. For as you expand your outlook to embrace a wider and wider horizon, you'll be surprised to realize that more and more things interest you, and fewer and fewer things bore you!

Being a good listener will always make people like you. But being a good listener isn't a PASSIVE talent, dove. It doesn't mean sitting dumb and inert while talk rains at you. Far from it. 

Nothing is more discouraging to the talker. Nothing makes you seem more dull and uninteresting!

A good listener takes a LIVELY interest in all that's being said. 

Do MORE than listen to the words. Listen with your mind. Follow the mind of the talker (people soon sense your mental inattention, if you're only hearing with your ears.)

On the other hand, your responsive mental interest will flatter and stimulate a person to keep talking. So, show people that you're entertained by what they're saying. 

Conversation is like a game of tennis. If your partner serves you ball after ball, and you allow them all to drop about you unheeded, he or she will soon tire of the game. But if you watch their play, returning their balls, and keep the talk volleying back and forth with lively interest, they'll ENJOY the game. 

And seek you for a partner again.

How to Be Fascinating - Feel The Mood and Adjust Yourself to It

When you're talking, you can sometimes feel the attentive listener responding like a vibrating chord. You sense when his interest wanes, however, even if there's been no sign of inattention. 

This will embarrass you, cloud your mind.... yes, but with a responsive listener your thoughts fly. Your tongue is glib. And you feel the stimulus of their ALERTNESS.

Your vibrations (your 'vibe,') are always reinforced by a responsive vibration. This phenomenon is multiplied a hundredfold in the theater, as all experiences of personality are. Any actor or actress will also tell you that when they feel the sympathy, the interest, and the response of the audience.

It carries them on to play their parts with greater zest.

Actors dread a half-filled theater. However, they thrill to the high-keyed expectancy in the air of a first night, or a gala performance. They can also feel their audience's mood and adjust themselves to it.

In a lesser degree, that same vibrant current underlies every conversation. You break the current, if you fidget or grow bored. However, you strengthen the current when you attend with all of your mind. 

Being a vibrant listener will always make people like you.It's a charming asset and easily cultivated.

The Great Ladies, and the Advanced Femmes of history took the trouble to INFORM themselves - about the interests, the work, and the hobbies of every one whom they received in their 'salon.' 

Thus, a Great Lady was prepared to lead people on to talk about themselves, while she responded and questioned them intelligently. And every one who met this brilliant woman testified to her charm, her radiance and her spontaneous sympathy.  

Perhaps this was one of her greatest secrets. 

You can adopt the secret for your own.

How to Be Fascinating - Be Charming

If there's a man you wish to attract, find out all you can about his work, his passions, what he reads, what he does for amusement. Then read up on his work, even get books from your public library, if necessary, that will help you to understand it.

Furthermore, dove, learn the games or the sports that he enjoys. Then you'll be able to talk to him in his OWN language about the things he hopes to accomplish, and the things he has done. 

Furthermore, you'll be equipped to listen to him animatedly, and he'll find you fascinating and attractive!

The subject of 'feminine charm' has aroused much interest on my blogs. Most relationship experts will also admit that it's as important for a woman to have CHARM as it is to have beauty. Indeed, if she has charm, she can actually be plain, but still be attractive, magnetic.... fascinating.

Charm is not synonymous with personality, however, and it's not as broad a term as personality. Charm is just one aspect, though a very important aspect of personality. It's the power of winning and pleasing people. 

Some lucky women have this quality as a 'gift from the gods.' Others LEARN it Charm Warfare – The Art of Charm for Seductresses

To a certain extent, of course, your charm is expressed by what you say. Common sense will also tell you that you must be careful not to give offense in any way. But to be charming, you must go further than that, and give pleasure by the grace and tact in your attitude toward people.

An old saying comes to mind; "you can catch more bees with honey than you can with vinegar." Remember this quaint truth in all your dealings with people. 

In addition,a quick, lashing tongue hurts you more than it hurts any one else. And complaint, sourness, cattiness etc, cuts you off from sympathetic contacts. 

Be GRACIOUS, enthusiastically attentive to people, and they'll feel your charm :-)

We are all so busy, so hurried, these days, that we can grow entirely concentrated on our own interests. People sense this exclusion and are repelled by it. Moreover, we must utilize our time wisely, and work more effectively, if we don't want to lose all our power to ATTRACT people.

Anyhow, cupcake, I do hope you enjoyed my post; 'How to Be Fascinating!' 

Much love,
Melina xxx

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